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The Millionaire Matchmaker: Patti Stanger

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GG & Anita talk with The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger! Can she help them find love? Tune in to find out!

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Straw media. Hey, guys, welcome to genuinely GG. I'm so excited to have all you guys here to listen to my podcast, and today's topic I'm really excited about. I have the famed millionaire match maker, Patti stanger. I'm super excited to ask her all sorts of questions, from threesomes and foursomes to my new path in life, polyamory. So I'm super excited for all of us to sort of like try to like cut into it and, you know, explain what it really means to not have a conventional, monogamous, boring, sorry, I don't mean to say boring relationship, but before we do that, where it on the street is okay. So I watched the first episode. I did keeping up with the Kardashians and okay, answers are here. Chloe is choosing to have a baby with Tristan, completely unromantic. Yeah, it is only for the sake of having another child together, same DNA. He's a good father and wow, like that makes me really, really, really, really really happy. Yeah, you know, what do you like? Do you think that's cool? Like, no, I think it is. I think it's great that she does want to do with, you know, have the same same dad, same same you know, father figure around. I think that's great. I think that I did think that the first episode was kind of boring. So I kind of like, don't know, I got a bad shade. So I know I was not even talking about the show hers. I feel like myst how you really feel, Anita. So I just I'm sorry, I just feel like I'd so I don't have yes, I think it's great that she's doing it with with with Tristan. I wish her the best. I think they were having some issues and and hopefully they figured that out, because I don't think that does not tell me in any way what your opinion was on Chloe only having a child with Tristan for the fact that it's the same DNA and he's a good father and it's not romantic related. It's not romantic. Yeah, so what is your opinion? Is it not romantic because she's scared to be with him because he's I need it twice, or she wants to be with him, she's just not attracted to him? Maybe? No, I mean, I don't know what. I don't know the girl. I mean, I feel like chloe's my best friend. I really do, but I personally don't know her. I don't know why she won't, you know, be in a relationship with him. It seems like he really, really really wants to be with her. He really wants you know. So I'm sure makes him super happy that they're having baby numbers together and maybe to him it's like yes, this way I can is I'm finding equate having her, you know what I mean. But to me, for someone who used a donor to have a baby because I didn't want that traditional or conventional relationship in order to have a child, I really appreciate chloe doing it out of non romantic no, I think, yeah, reasons. Yeah, you know, I don't know. That's my opinion on it. But and I think I think I potentially did read that she is she could be high risk and she could be what high risk, and lose her baby, like eighty percent chances she could have a miscarriage. So in order to use a Sarah get, you may so I think that's another reason why she doesn't want to, yeah, carry it herself. So I do I do get from more respect to that, because I think at first I was like she's trying to keep your body. And did you notice her doctor on the show? No, that's my doctor. What is your doctor? I did my IVF doctor Wong. He did my ivf procedure and he got me pregnant with Al Shay Heart. When I thought, when I dozed off and being bored, he said I love Chloe, and I guess. But yeah, no, no, I've heard a lot about him actually. So that is the same doctor. That's the same doctor and he's helped a lot of the kardashian class. A good job, because Elijah's great, her kids great. What's that? He's great because your he's on a life is great and so grateful to Doctor Wong for, you know, giving me Baby Elijah. Yeah, I'm really grateful. In the same arena of the Kardashian clan we got the Little Kylie Jenner that is sort of all over the media right now, and not because of, you know, a new lip gloss or anything, but because one of her previous makeup artist Samuel, got into a very, very, very extremely bad car accident and he needed, apparently a lot of money to help with. You know what's going on, and is a hospital fees and bills and kindly posted a Gofund me page and she herself, I think, donated fivezero dollars to it and asked...

...all her fans to donate to the Gofund me page and not pissed off a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of people who are not a part of that one percent of billionaires that have money that drips out their asshole. Yeah, so I think that the question here is why? Because I've worked with Samuel in the past. Yeah, I know my son, of my friends, you know for from like Shaw's related stuff. He's a great makeup artist. I have makeup artist that are great friends with Samuel. So it's interesting to see why for her she can't just it's equivalent to like a dollar. That's what I'm saying. I mean to her. Yeah, that, but I think she's just doing it to use her platform to help him. But why can't she just help just give him the money? Right? And then she got really upset about social media being so hard on her and she issued a statement after that and saying I feel Sup Porton for you to clear up this false narrative that I've asked fans from money and I'm not paying for my makeup artists medical bills. Sam Isn't my makeup artist and unfortunately we don't have a personal relationship anymore, but I have worked with him a few years ago and think he's the sweetest. So then, why does she even do that? Why? She knows she the first is so interesting. He's not your friend, he's no longer your makeup artist. So why are you trying to help him? You cared enough to. I mean, you're Kylie Jenner. You can't just randomly post anything without understanding the repercussions behind everything you post, course. So why post it? Why posted and asked all your fans for money, when it is your daughter is carrying around Fifteenzero dollar purses, your daughter, so she should have just number one. Just not done it at all. If she hasn't a relationship with this guy. I'm going to just give him or just not post it. Don't post it, or just give him, give him some money in a sun and be like, listen, Hey, like I feel bad for you. Here you go, I'm want to help you. And what do you think? It's a cool tax situation, because a lot of these celebrities, when it comes to giving money away, taxes are a thing and every dollar, every penny is really examined and calculated and they donate to certain things, but those are to do their cause of, you know, right offs and whatnot. So I don't know, I I hate, I hate to even discuss this because I'm a huge fan of the Kardashian Jenner a massive, massive fan of that whole fam late, but it left a little bit of a bad taste in my mouth when I was reading this. It's interesting this. When did this come out today? As she saw this, I think it was yesterday or say, yeah, yeah, that's Day. Caught me up far, he's so, yeah, it was just and and then this new statement was just issued that she's saying, you know, he's not my personal friend Jor makeup artist, or he's not whatever. So I then are people coming back saying, well then, why did you do it? And she there's been a lot and she's not now. She's silent. She's not saying anything. and well, she's like she's Kylie Jenner. She can't respond to all the fans. She can make another public statement saying that. Well, is the only public that's it. That's it from what I know. I don't know if there's anything else what more can you say when you've already said I don't have any affiliation to this person? That's my cause of practically, why not? I'm not donating more. He was with a question. This is makeup artist and he is the sweetest guy. But the question is, if you have no affiliation, he's not your makeup artist. You're having my notes. Why did you even do anything at all? Why'd you even give him money? Why do you given five thous? I don't know. So then you're right. Is it a tax team? But then that why would you bring it up and do it on like a national and probably messed up. She probably shot, probably messed up. So the mom wasn't a bet back in the stuff. So she because Chris does everything for yeah, that I mean. This one got less slipped by her. You can't be that famous without having every single thing you say be, you know, torn to a different level. So wow, I don't know. I don't know. Probably Hope. Maybe she felt so bad that she's gonna go front the whole bill. From what I saw last they've raised a lot of money. From what I lost saw, a lot of money was raised and dependent of L Carli my knowledge, so or what the other Samuel, we wish you a really speedy recovery. You really are a great makeup artist, because I know firsthand from your work and I follow your instagram, so I know and we wish you the best and we hope to see you soon. Yeah, well, okay, okay. Well, with that being sad, now we're going to shake things up a bit and talk about being slutty without being called a slut. Is that how you would defind polyamory? Maybe that's how I would defind myself. I'm a little slutty, but I'm not a slut. I just don't like to be with one person anyways. All right, yeah, I get into it. Let's get into it, let's let's bring in the expert who knows what I'm talking about. Maybe, or maybe doesn''T, because I don't know if...

...anyone knows what I'm talking about. Ever, I thought maybe, just to make it more fun, should we sing a song? What songs should we saying? Anita, match maker, match maker, make me a mash, fine me, a fine cash, yeah, cash, night after night and the dark I'm alone. So funny, a perfect na NA. I literally thought it was just going to be the first part the match maker, a match make here. With that being said, you guys give a genuinely gg welcome to a good friend of mine and a very good person at making love count, Patti stanger. I am so, so, so excited to have Patti stanger on right now, not just because she's a friend of mine, but because she is the infamous millionaire matchmaker and she's really, really good at her craft. I'm still not sure why miss stager has not set me up with anyone, but we'll talk about thatcome Patty, let me on the spot. My glasses off. You got the words? They they've been a video with me and Daff so I can't hear. And this is my cohost, Anita or I'm good. H Are you doing? Good, good thing, good, good, Patty. What have you been up to, girlfriend? I've been producing movies for hallmark in my downtime and also working on my real business, the millionaires club. Yeah, that's amazing, dude, I kind of how how did you even get involved in that? That's awesome. On a dare, my agents should I never get into script and I could watch me, and I want, on a date with someone who I wasn't attracted who pitched him. He was one of the producers at Markham. We took it in and then we sold match maker mysteries to them, which is a series with Deneka mckeller from the one through years, and Victor Webster, the Sexy Victor Webster, and it's a great series and I just sell them another one a round come. So and I'm working with also Evan Tyler, who produced Van helsing. I'm doing a supernatural thriller with him as well. Yeah, I have been serious on that. You can script. It is really fun. It's fun going behind the camera and like doing and I went to film school, so it was kind of my thing that I always wanted to do. Yeah, but please tell me when any of your stuff is going to air so I can make sure. Okay, thank you. Thank you. I will support Connie. I have a very interesting topic for today's episode and I could not think of anybody else to wait in on this other than you. And you're known to be honest. You're own known to be cut there. You don't have time to sugarcoat Shit, and that's what I appreciate about you. So I want to talk about polyamory. Okay, first I want to take a minute, you know, to explain to the viewers exactly what polyamory is, because I think people hear polyamory and they automatically think, you know, everyone's having sex with every man of you knows, some sort of weird okay. So, so polyamory is the practice of engaging in multiple romantic relationships with the concess vent of all people involved. Okay. So, Patty, the reason I wanted to talk about polyamory is because the last about year and a half, two years, I've been identifying with it for myself. Okay, have you tried it? What's up? Have you tried it? No, you see, because unfortunately I was pregnant and then, you know, covid happened. So now I'm just really confused on on sort of how I would even need to navigate trying out something like this, because if you do not, will you? Have you ever watched the showtime show on polyamory? No, okay, first tomework assignment, before you decide to do anything as watch that show. Okay, you know, for us. Yeah, watch it tonight. I know somebody on season two, but it's two seasons long. It's started. This woman who's the head of the polyamory community in San Diego, but she lives in a quad. She has two couples. They each can sleep with each other, but then they also go out and have boyfriends and girlfriends during the week, like date night with other people. Sorry, just it is engage. They both all couples, yet they live on. One couple is that children, lives in a property in San Diego. The other couple moves into their guest house. They don't have children. Each one of that couple can sleep with them. They have rules. You've got to like. Second you got to get permission from your mate,...

...and then they also go out and get girlfriends and boyfriends because one of the husbands is bisexual. Well, does that complicate things? So what? It's an interesting show, to say I was. Yeah, that's when it I was excited when it came on and I loved it, but I was really depressed when it ended, because it's very interesting. She ends up being the main ringer, pissed off more than anybody, and she's the one proposed, you know, promoting polly is like the perfect lifestyle, and then she gets screwed because she gets jealous. Right her husband's super hot. Okay, so that's your hot goes off and gets the girlfriend. Yeah, the jealousy factor, what you just said. That is the defining thing for me on what makes someone eligible for something like polly, because for me, I've, I think my girlfriends have always made fun of me. Even guys I'm in relationships with have made fun of me. When I'm just I don't get jealous of other women. I have to the gue. I got married. Yeah, but if you've been, have you been in love? Had Been Seriously in love? Or is it infatuation? Because if you're really in love, can you handle someone else making love to your lover? Absolutely. Thank you so much, Patti. This is what I've been trying to tell you. When you're really in love, you don't really want to share. Well, I her bisexual. I wait to see your bisexual likes. You Bisexual. I have never shot the company of another person. I have absolutely never ever had a sexual experiment with a woman. I've never been interested in it. It's not something that I think is so you guys choose that good. You so, polly, would be two guys and you. So you don't know what I went hold on, hold on. What I'm trying to say is. I don't want a multiple sexual situation. I'm not freaky. I'm not into that Freaky Shit. That's not for me. If it's a for other people polling. The polly part is in my life I have an open relationship with someone that's a different than polly, because an open relationship I also want the commitment, because polly still has commitment, but afecly you probably has commitment, but I get permission to go sleep with someone else right. You have to ask permission to and it's not about sex. See, I don't want my player. Holly is not about sex. It's not about sex. Okay, Tez, watch this TV show reported I think. I think this TV show has depicked it in a way to make it people look like it's about said, yeah, you know, it's a documentary style TV, so it's not like you're showing. Well, I will totally watch it, but it's actually a search, as I've done. polly is not a size about commitment, and the fact that I'm only about commitment in yourself a few people at the same time. Now are these two people in love with each other? To listen, that's that's what you decide in your in your there's terms to every type A situation. I'm the type of person I don't like a man to give me all of his attention. I don't want it, I'm not interested in it and I cannot give him mine. So I need him to find it elsewhere, but also give me some time as well. I mean the only thing that I could just find out. That's but you can also have you live in two separate residences, which I've met a many people have done this, committed to the other. Go Home, do your shit, come back and see me when we have date night and I don't have to deal with the everyday life. You could see that that doesn't have to be polly. Well, what will then? Why? What would that be? Cause that'd be a man. That's a man's wet fucking dream. Now, okay, let me ask you something. You are you've been in the business of match making, for God for so long. You know it inside and out. Would you be able to find a man who would be interested in a woman who has my belief? I don't do polly, I don't do what you said. I have polly. I don't do what. I find a man that would be open to you having separate residences and dating, maybe, yeah, but I don't do polly. I don't do it. I don't do arrangement, I don't do polly. I haven't really gotten into the bisexual community. It's been a hard place for us because the women get jealous if the man goes with the man. Okay, I am was in the woman more than the women goes with the woman. So we've had an issue with that. It's been a real problem. I'm more easily likely to pick up a gay man and a lesbian. Wanted to do trans haven't been able to do that yet, and mind you, I'm not gay, so it's you know, I want to make sure I do right by that big LBT Qpi community. Is that Nathan? Is that I am the break? Did I just do that right? Okay, and I haven't done pansexual or fluid. I've always wanted to do a TV show on a group of people that lived in a house. Don't steal it, we'll do it together. It could perfectly could be a great bravo show where we do fluid people in the house because I find it fascinating. But as far as polly goes, no,...

I tend to a dract the people that want monogamy and lead towards marriage. That's usually what my agency attracts. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened. I mean, you know, there's been celebrities that have come to me and said, look, I'm I want an open relationship. I wanted if state, but I don't. I wanted my standing to on. I don't know that I want an open relationship. I just want a relationship with a partner who maybe cause another I hate to sound like this, I would rather be with a married man so he can answer to his wife instead of whom I would just have them part of the time. But I just try to ask, have you been anotly madicine? Are you don't believe in cheating? Okay, don't you asking? So he has his own residence, you have yours. You see each other when you see you. You're committed to one another, but you're not together all the time. That seems pretty doable. Go what don't go to goes. But it goes a step further because she wants, because gg thinks that she can't find some like, all the qualities in one person, so she wants someone to like. So that's a different story. Sexually there for her that she wants emotional support. She wants ship primary. You know who wants a friendship? She wants intellectual stimulation. So she wants everything and she can't find it in a person. So she and she doesn't want it with just the one person. She could stick of them. I get really bored, Patty. Usually if you get bored, it's not the right person. But I'm almost forty years old in a couple months, but I've trust me, I'm older than you and I've not been married, so I get you know, it's usually they're not the right mate. It's like maybe of a sexual connection but the emotional is off and the emotional connection there and the sexual sup it's like where they don't mentally stimulate you. You're just meeting the wrong people. Don't go anywhere because after the break I'm a married man and my wife and I are okay with me having a lover. You're not unusual on tinder. Tinder has all different types. Just date in the tinder what you're looking for. I see who comes your way. Well, how do I navige finding a guy and being like, are you open with me having another? I know how. I know how I know how well these relationship ha ha, very true. I bitch. Who snaps free snapper on that one. So let's see, this is a little hard for me maybe to explain to someone. For instance, a Nita is all about marriage. Patty, you're all about monogamy and marriage. So it's like, how does someone like me come across without being told you haven't found the right person? Okay, so forget what we say to you, and why don't you go about asking what you want? If you're on an APP date, what you're looking for? There's and tender. There are people that bring in their mates in the picture and say I'm or I'm a married you know, usually it's the handsomest guy in the group. I'm a married man and my wife and I are okay with me having a lover like Janean Ena, so you're not unusual. On tender. Tender has all different types. Just state in the tinder what you're looking for and see who comes your way. I've been really honest with a lot of the men that I've dated from the beginning. I state how I feel. I state how I am in relationships. Have a hard time, you know, getting to that. I love you, phase and every guy, like you said, there figs get hard off hearing me say the things that I'm like, I don't want to Russian, and then they're so happy than Bam they fall in love with me, and I'm like, Oh, please back off, because you're indifferent. That's because you're indifferent. When you're in different and you're in that, I don't give a damn whether you come or go. That is the most sexually magnetic attractive catnip to a man. That's I need. What I need to do in difference, in different yeah, and need is the polar opposite. When I like someone, they run away and when I don't like them, they love me. So that's why I'm there. You go the way. That's my biology. I'm adopted. My biological name is Anita. That's why I it is yeah, okay, yes, that's so. I use it on my I use it on the dating APP. My real name is really funny, don't you know, you don't look anything Nita I got. I go and they go, well, Anita, Louise was my middle name, but they always go, you know, you look like and I'm like, yeah, I've been told that a lot, but it's really meat. That's why I instant connection there and needs a very different upbringing them. Me Jewish Persian girl from Ohio, but there's shoes and shoos in Ohio. Really Mot we were the only Persian Jewish family. Everyone was Ashkenazi Jew I'm no Jewish friends. I've never dated anyone Jewis until I moved out here to California. And so did you. Did you join Nesso when you came out here? That's a very famous Jewish temple in Beverly Hills, but I speak the spoken at it. We now Nessa, Nessa. Yeah, okay. Well, I've spoken at...

...it because all the wives, excuse me, all the mothers, brought me in for their girls, you know, their daughters, so to get married. And then I found all okay, why? Why? I want? Because the Jewish men live at home till they get married and they don't move out. They live in their beautiful houses with their parents, they get their laundry and food done, they drive their nice BMW's to work and I guess they get a hotel room when they have sex. I don't know, but they know. They don't want to move out and enough Canas we kick them out. Oh you're at a college your own. Yeah, yeah, get the hell out of here. Yeah, that's I try to tell Anita stop putting so much pressure on herself about it, but I don't know, maybe she should try polyamory. No, no, you need it, or a longdistance relationship, or they live in their home now. A divorced man who tag kids, who doesn't want to get married again but wants the thrill of romance and wants commitment so he's not slipping around and get an ftd little on covid. That's your guy. Like he's done with marriage. He doesn't need to live with you. Two, three nights a week. You see each other, you have the great sex, you go home, simple, telly, Sarah Possible. That's like scientifically possible, that one man and one woman can truly just want each other for the rest of their lives. Yes, yes, I have met soulmates who are soulmates be shared as a Needa those. That means the meant to be, the soul mate. Okay, and I have met undying loved one another and they're perfect together, the Yang to her Yang. But why not have more if you can feel that with one? Okay, I said, listen with someone else, if you don't believe there's one person, at least two people out there for you, there won't be your thoughts create your reality. Okay. So, if your mind only knows what's familiar, which is avoidance, push away, push away, push away. I watched you over the years with your parents and your sister. I so what you do. Okay, if you do this and you push away, knowing that I know you, okay, then you don't want that, the only people that are going to come forward are the opposite polar which is I want all of you. So what you need to do is say this is all I want, this is all I'm accepting. I have a right to create the life that I like for me and my child and if that's it, all way for the right person to come along. But I don't think you need to go polly like. Probably's extreme. That's I mean. I just, I I just, I feel like I've never identified with anything as much as I've identified with polly. But I don't I'm not into the hole. But you never had a parlie. That's you've never tried it, had it. You don't even know if it's good, you know, but I want to try it. How about look, I'm Jewish and I like Goyam. Okay, I tried gentiles my whole life and I love you, Tom and I love celebrating Christmas. I'm sorry, in my tribe. Okay, if I could get a half and Halfer, like an Italian and a Jew, and I got one diet of that every way, I like yours. I know that I like going because I try freak guy that I explain that I'm into polly with. All of them are like, oh, that's that's dope, that's stop, you know, just that simple man mentality, that that's actually there's a name guy. Ridiculous. How many men say that they want to three some and by the time my ex I felt a great your Achary, I'm gonna give you prior version. We give you a three some and he goes, Whoa, Whoa, whoa. Maybe he's been tweet teasing me for her to do a three some, like you're so flull shit. You're okay, let me answer her, hotty. Let me. Why do so many men and women are like have an issue saying, in admitting that they want more than one partner? Why is that such a taboo? Because it's socially not acceptable. Since why the plant? Because back to Preyer store times, we, you know, partnered up for survival. That this fit us simply like getting on Noah's dark too by two, so animals go to by two. If it's since socially made acceptable to that means of marriage has been me socially acceptable that those marriage was exacts. Marriage is a business relationship because the women didn't make money and they need to be protected when they were making, when they were making the excepting babies and having them. And nobody wanted to be out of well lock because who was going to take care of the family because they couldn't work and make money? And this is weird, but there's a romance to marriage, right, we watch to make him Marco Mary Harry, Watch kitailed to Mary William. There's a romance to marriage. He saves you, he rescues you, he takes you out of the factory like, you know, oppiceer and a gentleman. Yeah, that's why. But now it's now it's like three incomes, let alone two incomes, and we make it well, I mean, I mean I went ahead and had a baby all Aloun. So there's only one and I know you have relayed. See, see, that was super brave of you. By the way, I can't even do that. That's very brute. Let's see, that's where I think. I don't feel I don't see that as brave. I see that is that's free. Why do women think they need a man in order to do it? Because I never felt safe doing it alone...

...and I just I don't feel comfortable. It doesn't feel like the way it was raised, the way I think about it, it doesn't work with my flow in my brain. You know, I would have to be married and I didn't meet the right guy. I was pregnant when I was in my S. I had an abortion. It was a terrible dude, awful dude. I wouldn't wish it on my best friend. He had gotten half of New York pregnant, by the way. That's sperm flow around. What was his name? I think we might have had the same very, very wealthy and incredibly nasty man. His family was worse. I said to my mother, if I have to see this person one more day, I'm going to murder him. I am totally going to have an abortion and I said to him little baby inside I felt it was a boy. Come back to me, come back, because I don't believe that you're killing a baby. It's the soul and I believe the soul will come back. I believe in reincarnation and all that. And it didn't, because I didn't get pregnant again. So I didn't feel comfortable doing it along. I felt uncomfortable. It wasn't it wasn't a natural feel for me. Now a lot of women can do it on their own. There are tons of single mothers. My mother was divorced twice. So I'm my hats off. My hats off, like Andy having a baby, stirro get Anderson, Jeff Lewis. I'm in love this. I'm an all all you, you're all heroes to me. So those a being because, goness is you just trying to get me to at least like freeze the eggs or whatever, and I'm my house. Freeze the eggs is okay, but I it's hard to have a child water, especially with being Jewish. But that's all raised differently. Yeah, we're raise. Yeah, and I was trying to explain to her that I programmed where programmed. It's programming, but the parents, our parents are the Borg we're programs because but then she made a good point that like I'm sitting here waiting, you're waiting and we're waiting and waiting, and then we're never going to meet that person, we're never gonna have the good designs, we're gonna be alone forever. Know which is more important to having a child or finding a mate? Me was finding a mate more than having a child, even though I wanted a child and I always thought I'd adopt, because I was adopted, so it wasn't like I did have to have my own biological child. But again, if you feel comfortable having a job by yourself, go ahead and do it, as long as you've got back up in case something goes wrong to you, like she has an extended family that could take care of the child if something goes wrong. Look, I don't have any amended family. I don't have can I ask both of you women something, because you guys have similar values, very similar relationship, and I know Anita, I think I know part of the answer this, but are you guys sad or, you know, feeling like you lack when you see other people and these relationships with their significant others or what not to yeah, of course. I mean do you would watch how many days you get on instagram a week and say, how are they? How did they meet? Why are they so? Why they find there's someone? Everybody gets days like that, and there are other days like you feel confident, secure, and you go no, I'm going to wait for the right one because I've a terrible past relationship. How a lot of you, bad boy. How long do you wait? So you say maybe, why would you take working? There are is no one size fits all. No two people are like. They're like selflike. As long as you learn the lesson and as long as it take, you're here for it. This is Earth School. You're here to learn. You're not here to have party like it's one thousand nine hundred and ninety nine, although Carol and Stansbury would disagree with us. But you know, you know what I'm talking about. This thing is like you have here, come here for a lesson. If your lesson is to learn to love yourself before having a child, maybe that's the lesson. I don't know what your lesson is, but as long as it takes, because the thing is there's a child involved and if this something happens to you and you don't have backup for that kid. Yes, have a father, grandpans dead, there's no brother, sister. It could end up in the system. You have to be careful how you're doing this and you're planning this kid's life. Now, things can happen. People die all the time. You know now, you know that's so another thing I think about all the time right now. I mean, I had a child by getting a sperm donor. I smoke pot all day and here I am saying I don't believe in monogamy, and I know that I I've been fucking judged since the day I came on to TV. I'd be as I was walking practically, because I'm a living controversy. But I just want to find where I fit in and I feel like there's a world of people out there that are similar to me, that they enjoy what a relationship feels like when they want a little bit more out of it. And you know, I just I want to be able to find a safe zone to yeah, I know, and I don't know. Now I don't know how to do. You are rebellious as a child. Your father was like hating, tandsful with you, like what's up? You are rebellious as a job. Your father had his handsful with you. So you were very independent from the day one and you knew what you wanted and you know, like you know when we're on reality TV they accelerate how we really are. You know we...

...have to do certain things to get readings and you know. But the truth is you guys were all friends of Beverly Hill High School. You all knew each other at the base. I'm not, I'm not, I'm the only one. I was the old that was brought in. I'm from palace Verdi's PALISTIES and I was not grays around Persian people. I actually went to ninety percent of peoples that I went to because I got kicked and know that's what I didn't know that are mostly all black people. So I did not hang out with Persians. I didn't like Persians. I still to this day have a little bit of an issue with the typical Persian. Yeah, La Person, but I grew up in a very listen to my parents are still happily married. You know, it's fifty years now I think they married. So it's it's not like I have. I grew up watching a miserable relationship. I grew up seeing my sister got married, unfortunately divorced with two amazing kids, and I saw her suffering and do that and I remember thinking, Wow, I'm never going to feel what she feels from the level of hurt that she feels from this divorce and this situation. Why can't I feel that for a man? Why do I not feel that? You know, I'm not. I'm not a therapist and I don't claim to be, but maybe you need to get yourself into therapy and talk to someone who really knows how the mind works, because there's some kind of unconscious block that you're someone say you that's the party. If someone were to sit here and say I'm looking for a relationship, I don't know why I can't find a relationship, you would not suggest them a therapist for for someone. Oh, I do, I do know. I do do that. I do do that. Sometimes it's a combination. We don't what you see on the show is not my real business. I mean it's a tip of the iceberg. Roberts did an amazing job on it, but there's people of psychological problems that come to me and I don't claim to fix their problem. I send them to professionals that are on my hit list for getting them in the right place. So it's in your case. You keep wondering why I'm not the person to give you the why I'm the person to says go to therapy or do transitdental meditation, which is a great vehicle. It gives you clarity. You can actually you might be in the bathroom and it's like Aha, that's why, like I'll give an example. When I was growing up, my father was alcoholic and he was abusive verbally and he one day pointed his finger to me and said when, when I was eleven years old, you made me lose all my money, it was your fault, and I took it in. I'm a leavin. My Dad's telling me this, screaming at me in the chair with this cigar and he and I got scared and I took it in right. Years later I go, why do I keep dating guys who don't have money? What is this? What is it was? I was rescuing them to heal my issue with my father and one day I had to excuse me. The AHA moment and I was like I'm never doing that again. That was it. I'm done. So you have to say in yourself, well, why did? I was raised in a family my mother were the pants somehow in the house. My father is such a confident man. As an adult I understand this. He's such a confident man that he allowed her to wear the pants, because I grew up seeing my mom as this power figure, and she's still to this day. Is that I'm doing it, I'm in charge, I'll do this. Don't rely on a man with so maybe that's just not have a message from your mother going you should be strong, you should be like this, you could be like that. She's always a never rely on man, my mom said. My Mom said to me, don't get married or it's over. Read it. Don't have children, it's not worth it. Travel the world, have you have have lovers, going on your journey to yourself. And I did that. My sister. He she says, now you you you got nothing going on. You need to get married and breathe and my and and find a millionaire. And my sister did that. So you have to be careful of the messages you give your children, because I took all that in. Yeah, sure, that's right, that's right. The mind only knows who. It's familiar. The mind only knows what you tell it. If you tell it, I can't find the person. You're not going to find the person. That's what simple is that? But I still think it stems back to you haven't met the right person, and that's why you feel like you'll never feel the love or to be with one person. But what is the jealousy? Have you ever met the right person, Anita? I don't think so. That's why I'm still how old are you, a Nita? How old are you? Like my real age or Mike Mary? Really, let your real Ay, the real one, like really, I don't know. Really, how old are you, Anita? Forty two, okay, and Hell, old are you? Did I'm almost forty. Oh, your birthday soon? Once your birthday? Well, it's not soon soon, but it's in November. I feel like it's almost. Are you at Scarpia's, Corr, said Thatch. No, wonder. I like you, my mom. Yeah, I don't really like Scorpio pieces. I have a real hard time with and they scare me. And what...

...are you, Anita? What are you bag Sagittarius? Oh, you both said. Okay, so sad is is is the Zodiac is a flirt of the Zodiac. MADG is the one that basically can't pick someone. There's always someone better, bigger, better deal. Maybe you know they find faults and saying they're they're known as the Zodia Zodiac. Flert Red Pitt is said, hello, wonder he's so sensitive. Right, but why am I so freaking different from Anita or so the Oh, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter, like because you have your Venus and Mars and moon and personal planets. That could be different. But the point I'm making is that there is a fickle gene in a sage where they have a hard time settling down. They like they love the stimulation of New People and Meeting New People and the interest and they love that old whole journey. Even if they say they don't, they still love it. It's a there they explorer. There's someone that go to other countries, a little by Jupiter super left to explore. Yeah, I don't know, I don't know. I'm so conflicted, ha ha. I just feel like if you're not with one person, it's like the the time management and it's exact. I can't barely exactly. One is exhausting enough. You imagine two or three like me now, at this age, at this after all the dating under our belt. What was it all for, right, what was it? have to be worth something. Well, do you think that okay? Not? Do you think if you, if you were just hypothetically speaking, if you were to try polyamory out? What what would you suggest? I start process to go on a polyamory site, which I'm sure there is. I just don't know where it is to not to go. I don't don't go speaking arrangement. Don't wanty these these hook up you know, I've seen sometimes I thought there little cookie. All of them there are a little bunky. Those people do attract a cookie bunch. It's just you can also say on tender that your polly in your profile. Yeah, but that just says fuck me harder. No, it doesn't. It says I'm polly but looking for monogamy. That'll be interesting. Would you? Would you take me as a client if I were into bout? I don't know where to find a poly man. If someone caught maybe if someone contacts me after this, but I don't know where to find a poly man. I don't know too many poly people. I'M NOT gonna lie and I wouldn't take money from you. I do it as a friend. So if someone wants to come to me and I'll veet them for you, sure. Yeah, ever met anybody that's interested in this? Nothing, you know, if he I've heard I've had bisexuality, but not probably. You know, just with covid and seeing all these people and I don't know, it's just a lot. It's all going on. I'm covid frantic, so I don't really plan on going on. I don't go I don't go out until this I don't even decide if I'm going to take the vaccine, like I'm in I hibernate my house, I don't, I don't. I'm not going out to restaurants. And the other day I had to get dressed for one meeting and I said, Oh my God, how do I put an affit together? I've been living in sweats the whole year, you know, into Jamas. It was creepy, it was like crazy. Then I got to the person's house and they were all in their sweats. It's not so funny. Everyone is. It's like everyone just wore sweats and and it's like we're so lazy and like you know, and then I'm looking at my pictures and going I need to lose twenty pounds, like you know how, like we're all doing this right now. We're all judging herself, because we never had so much time to go inward and look at ourselves. It's crazy. And then, of course, you seeing all the people with the perfect bodies on instagram working at like being so that when they get out of this they're going to be all skinny. Many. I know it's cold. This could be to be a major side effect of being pregnant and then being in the quarantine and all this, and I just why did you have the baby? When was the baby born? Well, in April. He'll be one. Okay, that so you know. There was a month after quarantine. You had your baby because we sheltered march seventeen. That we're coming up to the anniversary. Okay, yeah, that are the I have him in a very scared that must to be the most say you had to go to a hospital during the worst time of covid you must have been terrified there, firefied. They were saying nobody could have any plus ones and that I might have to potentially have a baby by myself and you know, thank God, my Gosh, it was a crazy, crazy time. But you know which you know, I even think about Elijah. was stuff like what a special time to tell him that though your child and say, like hunting, you were special. Twenty was memorably for yes, like wow, we thought trump was bad right, nobody dreamed that would even be a fart worse than him. But yeah, I mean, put it out there if you want to try, cause it.

God, I'm you. I'm open to try. And, polly, can you please send me some cool, sane people who do this, that want monogamy and let me see what it feels like. Let's not make any judgments till you try it on. You know that tread may not fit well. What about what if I tried monogamy and based on my partner obviously being maybe open and accepting, maybe that's a conversation that could be had deeper into the relationship. Hmm, do you think that's a possibility? Or you think if the guys going into it, he's not going to allow you to have a man. He's going to allow you to have a woman, but not a man, and you're not by second. What about this? What if I just wanted to be in a relationship where a man has another woman just so he doesn't need me as much. Oh yeah, that's easy. Throw Rock and La, you'll find one. Then it speech, especially go see it's Peter Pan stantial, because it's Peter Pan Central. Their children and how you know, I don't want to be a booty call no, say to him. If you have look, put it on your profile. What you're looking for. I'm looking for probably I'm a relationship for someone's be not with don't mind if you have profile. Are you talking about? Go to tinder with, as my God, as the largest selection of people in the world. To go for that, because it's the biggest website, and then say what you're looking for and do the same thing on the polic site. You don't think people are just going to want to come say you're they're into it just because they were. We're gonna have to you're gonna spacetime and video chat them and see if they're real. You're going to check them that you've got good sixth sense. You'll know whether they're bullshit or okay. This this might be the start of a new project, because I've never done this type of dating stuff. The TV show. This is a spin off for Bravos CZ and her probably life style. Yeah, I'm this is I'm gonna try this. I'm well, we had it Pollie GG Hobbie Geg holily. Yeah, Oh my God. Okay, I needa. Can you help me set up a new peace. I'll string out a new TV show. We're gonna get to bring it to where. You are under contract to Bravo, so we can't go to Netflix on that, but we have a new TV show. You know, raise and I will fix you up on the show. Yes, razy and then ready to race. My parents and my father, my friends, everybody in their Mama's would pay your day place raised that raison. I should do this, which go on the show, and we should get the guys to make sure they're real legit to quit. Yeah, that'd be funny. Actually, that'd be really funny. Good. I don't I think you would try it and you're going to hate it and you're not gonna be able to do it. I don't think you can. Well, it can't bring drama. You forget the part that it can't bring drama, and that is what the show shows. It sounds great in theory exact sex is really good, but then the after effects, like residue, the drama comes down and if you think you got drama on Shaw's honny drama. So you go watch the show, you're going to be blown away when he's gonna Watch for sure. Let me ask you this, Patty. Do you do have a lot of clients that are doing like a long distance relationships? Yeah, yeah, maybe that's something that would be. Well, that's what I'm actually talking to someone in stow and I'm doing like a longdistance phone call thing and he's coming out in April, but I haven't met him yet. I haven't met him yet. We just talked and we faced time to want your your personal relationship. Yeah, I so. I met someone on an APP and we talked. We're getting to know each other. We're really becoming good friends. So he's coming on anyble. Know it's through live video. Do you still feel like you can see only videotaped? We only videotaped once, when more audio after that? I'm kind of Lazy. I don't want to put my hair and makeup on on the other but I'm you know, but he's like we talked for hours. We really have a good connection wors first, we don't hit off, will be really good friends and I'm okay with that. Did you be your like dating up sword? No, I met. I met doing an APP called inner circle, which is kind of like a VIP, similar to Riyah, but not celebrities, and you basically have to get invited. Can You? Can you invite me? I mean hello, send it to Gz and she got she can invite all the other yeah, I don't know if there's poably on there, but whatever. No, no, he was the best looking guy on the site, I have to be honest, and he hit me up and I thought it was to get advice because he had broken up with his girlfriend. I'm like, here we go, the guy wants to invite can now be people do that to men, like, I'm not into it. But then he did tm like me and we bonded over what we both, you know, like, and it was just an interfuse interesting. You know, you wasn't. But the first time I got on the phone and I gave him a quick ass kicking and going, this girl's a douchebag that you were dating, and then I let it go and then I thought that's the end. Of Him and then they came back and we just started talking from that moment on. Yeah, he's sweet, though. He sent me flowers for Valentine staying. He sent me in necklace and he also sent me a he's an artist. He sent me a painting he made. So it's kind of sweet actually. But the thing that I liked about it is that it's kind of like Jane Austin. Instead of writing letters,...

...were having phone calls right and it's similar. It's very similar to that. It's kind of Nice getting to know someone on a slow pace based on the fact that it will end up in someone moving. He was planning to move to la before the pandemic and because the friends live here. So it was one of those where he was going to be by close to anyway. So, but leave it long distance. No, I mean, I don't know what's first. Let's see if we even like each other. Let's get to that place. Like, I'm open. We'll see what happens. I'm very realistic. I'm a very realistic person. Right, I don't live, I don't live in fantasy. You know. Look, I've tried looking locally and there's nobody here. There much no one said there's, because I wouldn't recommend anyone moving here for love. If you are female. If your male, you'll clean up. If your female, Stay Home Day, home, y the fuck hoom. It is really fucking true. That really amen, Amen, this this. No, it's it. You birth, step me own. It's fifty step em with the largest demosographic of singles in the world really, but the problem is it's children. They they don't realize, like they don't have to grow up. They can see fifty living with roommates, living on Venice beach and driving a bird, which is a scooter for those who don't know, and they're socially acceptable. Fuck, you'll see him at rwe all day long and I'm just seeing her gone. You're sixty. Good about that's you get a job yet, you know, because in Wall Street runs the town in New York and on the East Coast. So you have this whole like, I don't want to look from love this know I'm going to find a girlfriend. Oh, wouldn't be cool on Wall Street. I thought I wasn't married in because those wives that are my boss don't want me at the party bringing a new Bimbo in every week. So it's good different mentality. Midwest is like that. Minnesota's like that. Here it's like Whoooo, it's like they're UN perpetual vacation. All their wall don't go anywhere because after the break. It doesn't matter if you think like a man, you, and we have to put it that even. What is that? Because meeting you're not submitted and you're not painting and you're not like sitting in your chair and going whenever. I'm so helpless. Tell me, do you? Do you make sense of someone saying that, for instance someone who has them more open minded of you on this. The comment comes in about that's a man's point of view or I always know you see now, man, no, it doesn't matter if you think like a man. You. We have to put that even. What is that? Because meeting you're not commissive and you're not dainty and you're not like sitting in your chair and going whenever. I'm so helpless. Help me. Your brain, you using your brain. You have to pay your bills, you have a child to support. There's no fucking time to think like an idiot woman. That's helpless and distress. You have to think about future and what you're going to give this child, and so go fuck yourself this after you think, then that guy is usually the man who complains. You think like a man. Yeah, is not a man, he's exactly I noticed that as well. I can't name the name. Let's an insecure person. I notice that as well. You know, it's interesting and we having this mentality has caused every guy that I've ever dated to fall head over heels in love with me. And I tried to hear any difference. You're, yeah, different, you don't but are. Let's how someone like that Anita. Anita needs more of this side because of Anita needs to know that she's let look, there's a book called detached and needed. Do you read it? I am. I'm running it down. She's happing this down. Okay, so right for you know the whole book side languages of love came at. We all learned our love language. We learned how to love our lover and their love luncheon. They frust but attacked just the three forms of attachment. There's healthy attachment, there's a voidance and there's clinging, and needed a clinging. So what happens is you take the test and then you see why am I cling it? It comes from childhood, the way your mother raised you, okay, and the way your father, maybe the father, was up to. Maybe the mother is upton. Who picked up the child's it's the grand there. Did they give too much love? Did they push it away? You do not know when he was going to be picked up. Wor She beats up by the parent. To be said, you know, if you didn't know what it was, eventually you don't trust the parent anymore and you go into avoidance. So if your mom was busy all the time and running and running circles around, your father and the housekeeper did it and you didn't see your mom doing it, you're going to be like, well, I can't depend on anyone else. I got to be independent. Fuck this shit. I'm not going to give my heart away so quick. And that's what avoiders do, the clingers. clingers were smothered with love. Their parents couldn't get enough love. They had to give give Gift Gif Fif five. So when someone takes the love away, they go, oh my gosh, I act like I'm it's like you took away my heroine. Where is it? Where is it? Where is it? And the then there's healthy. I was actually healthy, which I was...

...shocked at because I've sucked up childhood. So healthy is where. Yeah, you got, you still love, but you're not cleany and you're not you're not a boy, or you're in the middle and you'll keep they're the communicators. They're the people go up to go hey, what the fuck's the problem? What's going on here? Answer me, and if they don't get the answer, they walk away and got dude, I can't figure that. You get some issues and they walk away because they know there's no point in investing time into someone who's not giving it back to you. Yeah, so, but this, this the three forms of attachment. Read the book. The stories are great. They give great attachment. I forgot it. The writer is I'm sorry, it's okay. I look at so attached. That is called attached. Yeah, a fucking man. The doctor has spoken and Nita, if that was not received, I do not know what will element of attach. Well, there's another element. It was taken injection. Yeah, J action, which I think other one is God's protection. Rejection is God's protection. That person is not your match. So let's talk about this. So, in writting that down, God's protection. Yes, well, we love this one, from polyamory to setting us up now on relationships. Let's do this and okay, so if he's not, he's not that into you. The book and when it was shout, when it showed up, the first line of Defense on sex in the city, and Cynthia's like, why did any call me? We had a great time. He didn't do a day. And then they go to I forget what his name was, Burger, and Burger says at the dinner to all the girls he's just not into you, dude, he's just not at you. That's not what it is. That's a man's point of view. He's not you're not his match, so why would he waste the time? So on the on the date, we processed. On the day, oh my God, he's so cute. Oh my God, he pay Oh my God, he walcome in my car. Oh my God, he gave me a hug. Oh my God, Oh my God, he's last name is singer, daddy singer. I'M gonna be married to you, right, isn't that what it's? You're like, Oh my God, the wedding. His sister and my sister are going to be best friends. Oh my God, we're going to live in palitic because his parents lived downes. She's so biased the house, like you're already planning everything right. Yeah, okay. So when this happened, you think it's done. You at a date, he kissed you, we close the restaurants down and the phone doesn't ring. What, what did I miss? And now you start to create stories in your mind. Well, he's he told me, had a big project this week. He's working. Oh wait, he said he was going in New York on Tuesday. Oh wait, he has that golf tournament on Thursday. And now you've created this whole thing in your mind going why didn't like, he didn't call you because the wishless didn't match. So on the car home, I just needs to say an eat is over here freaking out because you are hitting the nail on this with this Austrian guy. Look at because she's I just okay, so let me finish with the guy doesn't then we'll go to the austen guy. So all right, so you're on the drive home. He's the guy you know. You're waiting for the phone to ring. He should check in and see if I got home. Okay, you should ask me up for next week. He knows that I'm the bail by. Tell Him I'm around next weekend and they don't. He's on the drive going she's Super Hot. I could totally flust that. Yeah, I could fuck it. Yeah, well, she lives in the neighborhood, geographically desirable, so easy. I don't have to fucking you know, like that my ass last girl when I had to drive two hours to do that shit. Right, you know, she's got a real, really good job. Really good job was. Oh my God, remember the last one. I had all the fucking bill. She moved it on the second day. Okay, but then Ding goes off. You know, I didn't tell her I'm the Orthodox to she's Christian. I really want a Christmas tree in that fucking house, man. I don't know. You know, you know what she wants. Kids by to day she was talking about how every one of her friends had gotten pregnant and are married. Ding, Ding, Ding. You didn't say you want to kids by Jucy. He's going all those girlfriends, Gott me here, based go on, get me. I'm not. I'm on the Five Year Plan. I don't want to get married for FIDERS. And then he says check, check, no, check, no, check, no, check, oh, it didn't match up. I'm not calling her now, B Yeah, why would i? WHY WOULD I? You know what, we're just not a match. She's going everything that's up. It was perfect when we're going to plan this morning, I could see US getting engaged by June, and that's what happened. So it's not a matt it's nothing he's done into this match did not match up. Now, unfortunately, we live in a sociological age where men make the first move, even though bumble doesn't know it. Because I love you, Whitney. I love you, Whitney, love you, but the point that I'm making is like the men still are supposed to be the oupite in the chasers and the Lions in the jungle, and we don't have to fucking do anything with a lion because he's going to go her out. I want you, Bitch, get over here right and and the problem is is like...

...you have to wait for the phone to ring. When it doesn't ring in forty eight hours, he's not your guy. Now, if he's a rotation guy. Any ways, to three weeks and submarines you and he comes back into you have got really busy. I don't know what we live in a fucking text mextage. Okay, no fucking excuses. You can go to the bathroom and text me, Hey, what's going on? Yeah, that's Baloney. Okay, that guy is using you to get a better deal. When the better deals didn't come around the corner. Maybe that girl fell out, maybe you couldn't find another better deal. Maybe he's still stuck on a deck and now he wants to surface again. But why? Why? I'm I'm just wondering why it's that that doesn't happen to me, because you're not like her, you don't think like her. You she has attachment for him. You don't have attachment. So when that happens, that particular person is saying to himself, you know, like Holy Shit, okay, I don't need this shit, I don't need this aggravation. I'm just going to not call. And she's going, why didn't you call? And then when he does call, because if you get a better deal, she's like forgotten him, like who is this? I ben't need you out of my phone. I don't remember. Did I talk to you? Do we date? Really, you are waiting for the phone, touring the bit more busier to get, the lesser way for the pontering. The more you get into your hobbies and interest the more you can find things that stimulate you, even if it is the attached to magic wanting. You had to master me three times a day, the better you'll feel. Well, that was a lot of information for me to take any I totally want million of match make right what? I'm really sorry because it came on the show by I'm going to try something really different with Jes. I'm going to be Mellow Patty. That didn't work. I wouldn't have had you want if I wanted away. Yeah, I was trying to be like sweet and sexy. You know I love. I love this came out. I don't want anything. So start any version of you. This not just you. I I love that the direction that this all took, because now my whole concept of polyamories. Maybe maybe I just need a relationship as long distance, or that he's just so busy. He's big already. You get a multime, millionaires, do you think right? Can have time to kiss your ass. TWAY for saving. I want to change the baby. No, he's on the road making his empire. Okay, sign me up. Patty. Okay, well, now I'm going to look. Now, what kind of guys do you like? Anyway? Let's talk about what kind of guys you like. That's Atay taking people. I'm not all about the looks. I'm not that type of a person. I like witty and sense of humor, money, your intelligence, confidence system, biggest, biggest one for me, because you have to have a lot of confidence to be with me, because I don't believe in cheating, but I don't like that feeling of someone locking me down. You know, I'm very simple, I think when it come I just have a really hard time finding men. So I think my options of what I want have become sort of slim. Just confidence, self confidence, because you don't lose yourself any crush for looks are personality. Look, look, U. Most of my life it was column Farrell. Whoo, he's available. He's still single. Yeah, I heard he's a little weird, though. In the bedroom he said he actually has the same birthday as me, the exact same day, may thirty one. I mean he's very good looking. Let's go looking. Well, column, I think he was in like Hollywood hills or something. Call and if you're paying attention caught DM me calling. Yeah, and I'll said it up. I Love Irish people, I think call it. I related it so hot. I like Scottish who. I have actually set out to you down my spining Gaelic. So I'm'll tell you when. The number one person I would date in a million years is an Australian. I'm obsessed with Australia, obsessed with this. I watch all their television programs. I can't like get enough of it, like I have this one actor I'm obsessed with. His name is Roger Corser. I think he's like so hot. Did you see glits on Netflix? He played William in it. Oh so likely, patty. This is my absolutely favorite part of this show right now. It's I like to play a little game with all my guess it's called. Forgive me, I have sinned. Okay, Anita is going to ask you some questions and I'm pretty sure you get the gist of it. I stock a game, game. It's I don't even like it was any easy. It okay, easy. I'm always scared on watch one happen for it. Okay, okay. Have you ever dated or hooked up with one of your clients. No, that was like a heart. That was like that's about you, and say about that sexual harassment. We go, we go jail for that Shit. Go on, it's true. Next time. Was told next. Okay, why was the most awkward request you've had from a client?...

Bisexuality, but with stay, with faked pits, not real pits. I can eat a girl's and it was a celebrity. I can't say the name. Fake pit, bisexual and as a bail but at a moment's time to go on my private jet. That's like sure, that'll be easy. Okay, gone. So ways do you just turn? You just said I can't do it. Like I didn't end up doing it because it's crossing borders. I don't cross. Yeah, and he was married at the time, by the way, in the middle of a divorce, but living in the same house with the wife, which I don't know. Wow, you should have been so is gg to him. I know he wouldn't go out with him now because there's something wrong. I won't tell you who it is. You'll figure that later. Okay, okay, okay. Have you ever broken your own rule, no sex before monogamy? Yeah, of course. Why do you think I made the rule because it doesn't work. I've done that a lot. Yeah, okay, okay, so, so. So what was this rule about? Where does this rule come from? Oh, it came from my grandmother and my mother, because she used to say if you sleep with them, the oxytocin in your body will surge and you'll get bottoned to a loser. Then you'll want him and then he won't want you. So if you close your legs and get to know him, the more that you don't give it to him, the more he wants you, the more he'll give you monogamy. Then he's already formed emotional attachtion to you. So they won't leave. So why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Basically, that's right. Well, okay, so you don't apply the rule anymore. Particular, you apply the rule if you want a long term, committed monogamous relationship that leads to marriage. You don't have to apply the rule. Next, WHAT'S THE NEXT? Quote? The fact that you've never met your you know longdistance bow well, you know consummating taking with I have no I don't think I'll consummate unless we know this is a relationship. He knows how I feel best things. We've talked about it. Yeah, I don't fuck around anymore, especially in covid oh, yeah, no, the insane right now. Yeah, yeah, well, you gotta be careful and get vaccinated. Or what's the next question? And is there another one? There's one more. Have you ever? Well, I mean I already know the answer to this. Have you ever been with a man that's in a relationship? No, yes, you have, I thought made you. You gotta say, ok, there's a technicality with this bullshit. Bullshit, say, are you gonna listen? I am a I dated a guy for two years and I was madly sexually addicted. It's in my book. Become your own match maker. He was catnip sex. I call him catain Ip sex, and then we broke up. I actually broke up with him. It was my fault. I broke up with him. He got another he was having financial problems and he wanted me to pay for things and I was like no, that's and I was very Jewish and that time frame where I don't pay for date shit. You're asking. Yeah, fuck that, I could dinners, I guess, theater tickets, you paid the days. So anyway, he was he was going through a rough time and he was from Canada, so he's different customs in ours. And he got another girlfriend, a shicks a goddess, Anita, a Shicks a goddess blond killed me. So the goddess in her didn't have really good sex and I went to a Stan Stadia, I heard it was Jlostantoria. Later on I went to a Centeria, which is a witch in in the sant are religion, and he did a little chalk in the office, like it's just so normal. Right, okay, you're talking. So I went to a Santaro and he basically said I can get him back and I did this little spell, which I'm a little bit of a witch. I never did this again because I got a lot of trouble for this. My my spiritual teacher killed me and I brought him back in twenty four hours and I learned him with sex and then we had sex on the side while he was dating her. But then she caught us. She caught us and he said to call me up and said will you meet with me at this restaurant to meet him and confront him, because he's sleeping with you. While he's sleeping with me because he told me he broke up with her too, and so we both confronted him and he was like devastated and ran away from the restaurant crying. Oh my God. And then when I got famous, you try to get back in my life and I looked at him and I said not attract him. He tried to hit on me. I was like yeah, I'm not a truck to anymore. That was be a well, with that being said, we got a sin out of you. So thank you. I think gave you said, Pattie. Thank you so so much for doing this with me. I know you personally themed awesome at what you do. You're an awesome person. Everyone knows you is a millionaire match maker and you guys could find Patty at www dot millionaires club. Millionaires Club once you threecom apparently you're making us some movies sauce...

...soon too. You can watch my movies on hallmark. It's called match maker mysteries with Denika mckeller from the one two years and Victor Webster, who's sexy, is Mexy as Kaby, and I've another one that'll be out probably next year too. But there's this a series. We have two of them up online. Check it out. Homeworks, an amazing channel, and when you want to watch reruns of milliar match maker. Yes, you got a Brabo and pea cock and hey ru and Hul and Amazon. Yeah, yes, where aren't we? A crab, a nation, Robin Nation? I'm so proud of you. Thank you so much, Patty. I'm I'M I get a tender account white when we get off this call. But a tender poly a can't help it's going to come. Should create a polydivision. Sean, if you're listening to me, who I'm tender, and that's group. You need to make a polydivision. I'm with. Yeah, there you go, there you go. Thank you so much, Patty. By me and your and your in your mix of girls too. I'm not that needy. We just got to find a good guy that like, likes me, and no games. I attract playboys. Okay, Anita, go to my website and still at an application and then keep she will give you my telephon number. You tell me when you've already filled up the application. Okay, all right, that guys. Well, Um Huh. I gotta say I love Potty. I really do. On a personal level, on a comedic level. She cracks me up, but I feel like I'm still a little confused about my direction with polyamory, because I feel almost like she was trying to not be okay with me wanting to be a part of polyamory. I think it was a little bit of that, but I also think that she thinks that you are confused with what you really want, like you think you want that, but then it's not. The answers is just kind of trying to maybe pull you in another direction. What do you think? I think you're confused to I just I think that you haven't met the right person. So you get bored easily or you just want to keep pushing people away. But once that right person comes, I think that your whole opinion will change on so you think it has to do with a man. It has nothing to do with who I am as a person. It has to do with the right man not having been in my life. So that's almost like saying I'm not complete yet because that right person isn't out there to find me and accept me and love me. No, I mean I think it's also that that right not the right person for you, hasn't come to you and you haven't found that person either, because you don't give people a chance. Sometimes you don't let people in right, surfaced right. But I also feel like you don't. I mean you just I think you just kind of guess. You get bored easily and you do need to have like, you know, simulation with like someone intellectually, someone to bring your arm candy, maybe in different you know, someone sexually. If I found the right person, because what if I have found the quote unquote right person, but yet I still have a desire to feel incomplete, that I need more. How do I know I ever found the right person to what? Don't tell me. The right person is not going to make me want to go find more. Well, Shit, one person will never be able to completely. Know that. That's true. So you have to complete yourself fully. Yeah, I should get myself to stay this on my own advice. I take that back. I didn't mean completely, I meant complete my desire, because I got that that that that gap of relationship. Yeah, one person is not what is going to fill it up. I'm sorry, I have a big gap. Maybe is larger than my vagina was when I was giving birth, but it needs a lot of filling. Have you done King Cole's to make it smell, it smash? You know what it's that now smaller than it was before I gave birth. Really, is that even? How do you know? This stick a mirror, like do you look? You know, you know, you period and you kind of got yeah, okay, let's get back to the patty side. Okay, it's just it's a little tight, it's tired. I wouldn't know sexual. I still haven't had sex. I still haven't said I said it when we're like that's a whole difference, a whole another toptic. Oh my God, I mean, after having this conversation with Patty, it seems like, you know, I need to get, yeah, some sex and but that's the thing. I think that for you, if you you, you're never going to find that perfect person, right. So looking for that pure not, but maybe. I mean, I'm actually very curious to see you if you find a guy, yeah, that won't get very attached to it like they usually do. Okay, then maybe go for it and see what happens. Go for what to see what happens. I already did that and I accidentally got married to him for seven weeks because I listened to all of society, which told me, go ahead and do it, just do it, I'm seeing, and I did, on a little fucking chapel the side of the street and the like, eleven of talk in the...

...morning in my rip jeans and up boots with the complete wrong person for you. But I mean, okay, I think that you need to get a guy that has a lot of what you want. Right or woman, I don't know, whatever you want. Okay, okay, May I'm strictly to okay, sweetheart. So we go to the guy. Find that guy. He gives you a lot of what you need. You have already yourself so strong what you need from yourself, and then open it up and just be like, listen, I need you go the explore, do. What you need to do is to the guy. I did. I tried that in my last relationship. But did you go and do it with other guys to know? I can't. That's cheating. I don't believe in cheating. I told him to feel free to go be with other women, but you're not cheating because you're going to tell him. Listen, Dude, I love you. That's I'm saying. I tried to find that openness. He wasn't okay. I are not okay with it, then find a guy that is okay with it and try and find him for me. Can Patty won't even find it from me. She even said she's here to make monogamous relationships. So I ask someone. Actually, I think no, I think we need someone here to talk to us about what it means to be in nonmonogamous relationship, someone who has experienced and being in nonmonogamous relationship that that thinks it's okay. Yeah, you know, because Patty's about creating marriage and unity and and love birds and soul make. Yes, yeah, and I'm not someone who necessarily believes in all that. Yeah, you know, it's like. It's like you can't impose your beliefs on someone else. Exactly. It's it, it can't. That's where we know we get prejudice and racism and all that stuff, because we want people to think like us. Yeah, so I think this gives us an idea to go get a guest to come in to talk US specifically about being a slut without being a slut. Sure, yeah, but I definitely, I think we should definitely. Also, I'm going to take her up on her offer of having her find me a match. I think you should, because I think that I do want that. Want that I will, Patty. Anita will be calling you soon because she's looking for love and goneness. It is probably not. With that being said, thank you, guys all for listening. I appreciate all of you. If you enjoyed the episode, subscribe to my podcast show. Go onto their rate it, review it, Talk Shit, tell me what you want me to talk about in the next topics. I'm open to hearing everything that you guys have to say and, once again, thank you so much for listening and making genuinely gg what it is. By guys. B Bye,.

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