Genuinely GG
Genuinely GG

Episode · 1 year ago

Juneteenth, Pride, & Kelly Dodd With Justin Sylvester

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

GG welcomes on friend and host of Daily Pop, Justin Sylvester. Also! Be sure to listen in as Anita and GG clear up some things regarding her recent drama with Kelly Dodd. From Straw Hut Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

STRAWT media. Hey, y'all, welcome to another episode of genuinely GG. I am here with my girl, Ursela. Actually, our Sola is sitting in right now, just keeping Anita's seat nice and warm and toasty, and Anita is joining us via satellites, is that what kids call these days? Via Internet, via satellite from another state, because she's on location working, as she is, an amazing event planner. Hey, Anita, how are you? Where are you? I am in Sunny Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, Pin Valley to be exact. Yeah, got a huge wedding coming up tomorrow. So wow, wow, those, those are stressful right, stressful like I can't imagine, like because, especially weddings, I feel like so many women are bride Zilla's and you know, my God, like you and I have such a cold rhythm, I think when we have a party together. Everyone just saw the episode of Elijah's welcoming party. Everyone. Anita did the party planning for that and it was amazing because we went through so many issues to get that party up because of Covid, because covid was at it's like peek peek intensity. We were getting tested three times a week in order to film everyone around us had to get tested. You couldn't be. It was just insane. And so we lost events, we lost locations right we were using venues. And then it was just to have food. You can't just have food at one of these parties. What's it like? What was do you remember? Specifically? How was I for the food, for you, for the for the party? Yeah, like because it codd. It was just so hard. Like it was so hard because we couldn't, you couldn't. You had to have like everyone had to be in shield or whatever, and you couldn't do like buffe anymore because you can't be served. Like you can't serve yourself because then you're going to contaminate the food. And then so we had to have like the tray pass, but had to be all individuals. It was just so many different little things we had say. It was crazy. And and now it's like I'm here doing this, Evan, and no one's wearing masks anymore and everyone's just it's like what a whole other degree of yeah, it's crazy. Yeah, I can't imagine. I mean you should do what Ursula's doing. She's she's over there hanging on to her bomb. She knows what's good. She's just chilling. That's so funny. Yeah, she's holding her bomb. She's matching, she's coordinated. It kind of reflects off of her knife. Her knife is a good brush. Her Hair looks nice. Did you see her hair? Did I fixed her hair? You Notice? It's her first time on tea. She's never been on a podcast. Genuinely, GJ fixed her hair a little bit. Yeah, you might it. Okay, Hey, girls, she does, she does, she does. I remember during Covid I put a mask on her so little for a while, you know, just so you know. We don't want her to get sick. God forbid. I don't want to be, you know person. She's such a cute all right. Oh my God, honestly, the the word on the motherfucking street. Is the word, the word on the motherfucking street, as as you what the fuck? I leave you for two days, I leave you for two days and you aren't the word on everyone street because the man makes sense. You're the word on everyone street. What the fuck is going on? What's going on with you? What's going on with Kelly Daub? What the Hell is happening? Seriously, I leave you two days and this is going on. That is the word on the street. I I'm looking dead and I appreciate people out there and I'm wondering if y'all know what the fuck she's talking about right now, because I'm having a heart what are you talking about? What are we talking about? I'm a dreaming about Geg is the word on the street. There's no other word on the street right now other than you and Kelly Daub is what I'm trying to say. I was waiting for this. I was waiting for this time. So sorry to be all over the place, but and I think there's a little delayed reaction, so it's kind of like, but I was about to pull that knife out of her. So it's hand and this real one over here, because I was getting scared of you through this view satellite. Was Aggressive? Aggressive? No, because it's like I feel like, you know, it's like the point of I need to be there and I need to be in your world right now and I'm all the way like three, four thousand miles away from you and I'm just trying to keep up with with you and what's going on with you, and it's well, Kelly, and just everything is there's just so. It's a lot. So I'm ready to jump in and it's been crazy. It's been a crazy few days. I think that it's seriously turned into a bigger situation than it should have. She proved her true colors. I think that's all I should genuinely say. She she was very evil and I felt I felt like an attack on my my...

...name, and that means that's my culture, because if you're going to purposely mispronounce my name, you know that's that's attack on my culture and I just I don't know. I have nothing but love for Miss Cally Dodd. I have invited her a few times to join me at the Karma cafe. We do have daily specials of Humble Pie, you know, and there's other pies. I Love Pie. So you know, maybe she just she maybe she needs a do be and a pie. Maybe that's what's wrong with this woman. That's what it is. I think that's what it is. I don't know what it is. I mean, I would be miserable if I was getting Fox News Dick, but I mean it's that's just what it is. That's just that's just what it is. But the real word on the street is something way better, way cooler, way worth more, worth talking about, and that is the president has now signed the bill into action and Juneteenth is now a federal holiday, and that is a huge, huge thing, bigger than me, Kelly dog. It's actually the epitome of everything she is not, if anything. But thank you to all the people out there who have worked their asses off for many, many, many, many decades to make something like this even possible, because I need to you and I were Persian. We are a minority, and you came from a very smaller minority, being Ohio and being Persian, you know, than La, because you know Persians are all in La. But you know, it's just so cool to see the African American black community doing this because it literally shows us the way. You know what I mean. It just that's all it is. It's like it's like knowing your history. They say, you're bound to not make the same mistakes. Knowing my history, I'm bound to perfect the lessons that have been laid before me. You know what I'm saying. It's awesome. I'm just congratulations to everybody out there that Juneteenth is for you, about you. It is. I feel like it's for me too. But I'm not trying to rob it from anyone, but God bless all of you guys. I'm just so happy for everybody. So it's great because it's it's Juneteenth and it's still hide in. Our next guest is all of that combine. So let's go into introducing him. You know her from Shaws of sunset. You know she doesn't hold back a federal fucking holiday. Happy Jerve, happy June team. Finally, Bitch and like I told MBC, if Y'all think I'm coming to work on Monday, y'all got a whole another thing coming to you. Okay, well, my next guest has two things in common with a magnolia flower. They're extremely attractive and sweet, and they are both from Louisiana. After graduating from university, he made his way from Louisiana La to Los Angeles La, where he would become an assistant to Kyle Richards from the housewives of Beverly Hills. After landing the lead role in ABC's show Beverly Hills and Nannies, he soon grabbed the attention of people who would help him take into this next steps. He is a writer, a producer and definitely one of my favorite hosts from his hip podcast, just to SIP, to his very popular role as the host of e daily pop. I love this man so much I literally asked them to be my sperm Donner. Please give a genuinely gg welcome to Justin still, vesterre. Oh, I am going to pre hire you from my funeral because I know my bitch as is not going to last very long. I was Jeez, that was the nicest intro anyone has ever given my black ass in the thirty four years I have been living with. Yo. I love you. Thank you for being here. Justin. This is my coast and neat on the TV screen and Ursula's over here sitting in her place, since Anita's on a work events situation, but she's here with us through in Pennsylvania, right, Sonny I, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, pen ball. Oh my God, you're set up. Your setup is bomb. I love the studio. This is chic. Yeah, I get Justin. It really is God radio. I love you honestly, from this perspective, GG, like I love our freaking studio. We fucking, Oh my God, an amazing job. Like I'm looking now from the outside looking in. Sorry, Justin I love. Oh, it is like freaking amazing. Man. Yeah, well, in the spirit of happiness, Justin let me first and foremost congratulate you for the president signing the bill in making it a federal fucking holiday. Happy Jess says, happy June, team. Finally,...

Bitch, and like I told and like I told MBC, if Y'all think I'm coming to work on Monday, y'all got a whole nother thing coming to you. Okay, y'all can find somebody else to sit in that chair for twenty four hours. I feel you. I totally understand. Is what days are. Is Everyone closed today or on Monday? Then? No, you know, it takes a minute for these holidays to I catch on. You know, in your words, base off. Okay, yeah, there's no day off this year. Yeah, but next year they're going to put US takes a minute. It takes a minute. That's right. I was reading about that because I was trying to understand why so many people got Friday off today. We're actually recording this on a Friday. It was just past yesterday, so I was wondering why it's someone, so many people all of a sudden saying oops, I'm off tomorrow. And then I was reading that, because it is not fully regulated through every state yet, but it's beginning to. They are starting to sort of categorize it and know how to welcome it in. So certain people did get it officially off today and some people, I guess, did not. I don't know how the terms were. No, black people are either going to take Friday or Monday off. We have decided collectively as a people we are not waiting. We going to take this day off, okay, and we're going to barbecue and we yeah, we wait, but you're technically here with me and helping me, so I appreciate you. Thank you, thank you. You didn't have to do all that. You could be over there, you know, hanging out doing your thing with thank you for being here and thank you for being an advocate for a big world of people out there who have been wanting juneteenth to become a federal holiday. Because I'm not black or or African, or African American for any matter, but I am someone of color who respects with the black community, is paving for Peeple, my pipe, my people, if that makes sense. For sure know what ar means. I'm just so appreciative. Yeah, and with everything said, like, I'm super excited about this holiday, but at the same time I'm like all right, so, like what's next, like when are we going to get the equity? When are we going to start feeling the change that we have been asking for? So, yes, this holiday is a really big deal and it definitely puts a dint in the fight, but at the same time I need something else, something more tangible. Like what equity I need for, you know, the readers, redistribution of funds to schools in predominantly black neighborhoods, where we were forced to live because we couldn't get mortgages, in white neighborhoods, where the nicer schools are, who get the same federal funding, even though they have much more resources. That's what I'm looking for. I'm looking for financial literacy, for for Black Latin and mine, already teenagers before they set off to college and fuck their credits up at the age of nineteen, before they even know what the Fiko is. I want those things to happen, you know what I mean. I want the years of a black kids not getting into colleges because their sat scores weren't hype en up because they didn't get the proper, you know, education to help them. I need for those kids from those families that are growing up and getting into college now to be payback for the mistakes that we showed their fathers and grandfathers. So yeah, nte is the Bob and it is definitely a wind and I'm going to agree. I agree. Listen more exactly, and and I love that you said that because I had such a strong, valid question that I wanted to ask you in regards to Juneteenth, because when we dated back and we go and we look at history, I'm sad to say that I don't think we are too far off from where we used to be. And I'm going to read this word for word because I don't want to step on the wrong toes or say the wrong wording and mess everything up, and you know all that stuff. So this is about on the origin of Juneteenth, which a lot of people who are not aware of the larger world out there may not know what Juneteenth is. Okay, so juneteenth commemorates June nineteen thousand eight hundred and sixty five, when Union Major General Gordon Granger announced the end of slavery in accordance with President Abraham Lincoln, one thousand eight hundred and sixty three a man simmate emancipatient proclamation. Okay, now here's where. Here's where things get a little funny for me. I believe Texas was the final state in this is where it was announced. It was in Texas, and it was a final state to end slavery. General granger went to Texas and read to the people of Texas what they called General Order number three, which says the people of Texas are informed that, in accordance with a proclamation from the executive of the United States, all slaves are free. This in evolves and absolute equality of rights and rights of property...

...between former masters and slaves, and the connection here too, for existing between them becomes that between employer and hired Labor. Now, if you really like, decode that, now emancipatient proclamation is the executive order that they've received. All slaves are free. But but in the same in the same exact sentence, it's being said that you're not free. Your now the your employee, you're the employee of your master, because when a slave is freed, what the hell did that slave have to go to? Did He have a home? Did He have money? Did He have anything? So was he freed? These have different. Is it different than where we are right now and today? Because we are still is still a level of controlling. It is saying you are still going to be the lower of what human is. Well, let's first of all, I never want people to ever say, I don't want to step on anyone's toes. I'm so sorry that I didn't know this. Are Dean. Keep in mind black people are still learning what. Some black people are still learning what Junetine is. I have a lot of black friends who have the idea of June teeth, but they don't really know it. So if you think that you can't talk about it because you don't know it, it's fine, no one's going to be mad at you. Like this is all new to everybody, but the easiest way for me to explain that to people, because a lot of times people don't understand the working it's almost if you had held someone captive for two years in abasement and then all of a sudden said Hey, you can go free, you don't have to act like a captive anymore. That person who gets out of that basement is still going to have ptsd from what's going on and no matter how many times their family says we're going to treat you normal, they're still going to treat them like they were stuck in a basement for two years. So we've had generations and generations of generations trying to undo all of this history and trauma and all of this inequality, and it's been really tough. But the one thing I will say about now is that no one's afraid to speak up about it. Back in the cut we were scared to say how we really felt. We were afraid that people were going to come burn crosses in our homes, you know, do all of these things. But I feel like right now people are not afraid to say what they need and what they want and what they expect, not only of government, but of society and of other human beings. But do you believe that people are still coming forward and not being afraid and are pulling their phones out and recording things, and yet still it somehow falls on deaf years, because we still see a lot of people getting away with doing wrong things that are caught on camera, so to speak, when it involves race and those people go free and get off. So sometimes there's a level of frustration, it's a level of what the fuck do I do now? And then people give up, they surrender to what it is and then they retaliate and nothing. Things get dangerous. Yeah, that's what it becomes dangerous. But at the same time, thank God, I hate phones. I fucking hate phones, excuse my language. When I see people at a dinner table doing this or when I see catch myself checking ig or scrolling, I remember the good old days, whenever I had a flip phone and Nokia and a bitch. Only have I get snake. Yeah, they and then they have to press that are four times to get to the ASS to send a text message. Like I'm I I'm so glad I grew up in the age of if I didn't want to be found, there was no way to find me. But I with that being said, I'm so grateful for Steve Jobs and apple and what they've done with this iphone, because it's turned everybody into the accountability police. So yeah, maybe wanted two people might get off. You know, maybe, maybe, yeah, maybe, we might have some people getting off, but guess what, will never forget and the next time that you walk out of your home, free and living and breathing, people will remember that you were the guy who watched George Floyd die and didn't do anything to stop it. So maybe our court system is slow to catch on, but we as a society, we are not letting people off the hook that easy and we won't stop recording and we won't stop marching. I actually saw a video that when viral last week, I think it was on Michael Rappoport's Instagram, and it was some young teenage kids, black kids, being harassed by some police officers because they were smoking a vape pen and I guess it just turned really messy how they were treating them.

He the kid, was handcuffed and the COP is being seen meeing him in the face while three cops are holding him down. And my every hair, and I have a lot of hair on my body and Persian, every hair on my body, every hair on my body, stood up when I saw every single black person and a couple white people come in on the cops to protect those kids. I love that I'm seeing that happening. I love that I'm seeing the support. I'm loving the the the loyalty, the love and finally, people are starting to realize it's okay to treat each other equally, because we're just a different tone. We're not. We're not different people. You know, and I bet you every hair stood on your the back of your neck because you have a son. Now you're not a single person running around and living life like you're thinking about you know, this could be my child one day, mouthing off to the police. But you know, the best thing about living in America is I love a fucking citizens arrest. So if the police are acting a fool, it's my right to say you're acting a fool and let's protect and serve from you. You know, I think a lot of times we were told to fear the police. You know, when you walk past a police officer, you put your head down and you don't say anything. Are If you're driving at night and you have tended windows, roll you windows down like those are the things that I learned growing up, and now we have to retrain ourselves. We have to retrain ourselves to not be fearful of every police officer, while staying aware of what could potentially happen to you. You know what I mean like I always have to be aware I drive white cars so I don't get pulled over. That's how the guys dealership was, like you shure, you went that all black one with the black rooms and then like you're black guy, and it didn't dawn on me what he meant. He added I was I went to get a car and a black salesman was helping me. It was one of my first years in Los Angeles. You know, I have been the black sealsman. It was a black salesman and I was privy to Rodney King and you know these things that we saw on the news, but I wasn't privy to the every day INS and outs. I grew up in a small town where you kind of knew everybody and you know, you were still afraid of the police, but it wasn't like it is here, we're going to take a quick break, but when we come back. I got angry at for not angry. I was a little disappointed that the white gaze didn't step up and step out, because I remember when Y'all wanted to get a poodle with your boyfriend Marshall and adopt a baby and get married for proper a bitch was there marching and she was here and she was, you know, cheering, and a lot of black women were there marching with you guys as well. I went to buy this car and it was like murdered out. It was black. I was like yes, finally get the car my dreams, and the salesman took me aside and he was like, I would really love to sell you that car because it's four thousand dollars over, you know, the price of the other one that you were looking at. But if I were you, I would stay clear of that car because it's going to make you a target. And I was like what, and then he like talk to me like as if he was my uncle, and it made total sense. And I was like, give me the white one with the Tan seats, the one that makes me look like a white lady. But that's the kind of Shit that we have to tell one another, you know what I mean? It's crazy. I typically stay away from red cars, to red cars or as a target to but yes, I could see him doing that and protecting you, and that's yeah, so that that's sad. It's sad that you had to not get your dream car and but it happens. Are Like me, you know, I was with a white friend one time. I was with a white friend one time. He went to a sporting event and this black guy was in an argument with one of the security officers at the venue and we passed by the guy and I just stopped at the guy and I was like look, there's more security guys coming. If I were you, I would just pipe done a little bit, you know, like just enjoying the game room. And when I went back to my friend, he goes, Oh my God, did you know that guy? And I said no, and he goes, well, why would you stop and talk to him? I was like because he's black and he probably has no idea that shit's about to get real. Like I feel like if I see it, I should say something, you know what I mean? Like it's like the neighborhood watch. That's how we are as a community right. It is a very, very amazing culture. I mean, I grew up for I think the fifteen years...

...of my life lying and telling people I had a quarter blocking me because all my friends are black and I don't know why, I just loved the cluster so much so I used to lie and and you know that was obviously I was going through identity issues, trying to find myself, but it was nothing that I was ashamed of. Like when I see people like not ever having a black friend in their life, I just don't I don't know. But how does that work? But how does that work in because I've seen, you know, I've heard that in the Persian community, and I could be wrong, but in the Persian community if you date a black eye, it's like a no, no, hundred percent. And the difference in that recipe is my parents raised me my sister so differently. We were not raised in the Persian communities. I went to different schools around a LA. I didn't grow up in Beverly Hills. I was in palace arties, applied lray. I was able to become Christian, a born again Christian an age. I went to Jewish day cares, preschool. I we celebrate every holiday my household because my parents just allowed us to appreciate anything that have positivity attached to it. It didn't matter to them. Yeah, so I was not really introduced largely to the Persian community until like I think, wow, maybe it's I was like twenty seven, twenty eight, years old, you know, I mean. Yeah, so, I mean Persians are a little clicky, they're a little Bouji, not a little. They're very bougie. Persians are very bougi. Yeah, no, I've been. I've been to the parties. I ain't I didn't realize that, like, a Persian party is basically like a fucking hunger games, like I want to show you how much better my friends are then your friends, and it's like this whole like it's a pissing madge. And I could not believe my eyes when I went to my first Persian part. It was crazy. It was. It's always a white party, which I always respect. Yeah, no, I mean that's what it is. It's just Persians are so overthetop, they're so, you know, just their extra. They're so extra like really that's the only word to put on them, as extra. But you know, God blessed being Persian. I love it. I love it, other than the hairy part, which is okay. We have laser clinics these days. You know, it's okay, they're coming, they're good, they're coming along the Persians. I me because I'm from the outside to I came, I'm from Ohio, born and raised. So when I came to La and seeing everything, I mean my prom date, black eye, Marlon Sims, I don't know, he's if you stole around Marlin Hello, like. So for us we were raised, I was very, very similar to to too Golnessa, and so yes, it's saw just I didn't meet another full Persian person until I moved to Los Angeles. Like there were people that were lebankneese in my in my area, but never a Lebanese Persian any kind of community. And to like so in Louisiana, like was it? What was it like? Was it? Was it just, Oh, the black people lived, black, white and then of the know, it was black people live on this side. Why people live on this side of the track? You never really makes there was a black school, there was a there were no Persians. It was like, you know, all white school. There were a few Lebanese people like sprinkled here and there, but never like a because because it comes to Los Angeles into honestly witness and be a part of a Persian community, like to see, like, you know, a lot of people not only feel comfortable but own a city, like you guys own a city right. Oh, yeah, we run a lay the versions run la and Ron dulous, yes, and everybody knows everybody and there's a guy for everything and as much competition as it is between everyone, I feel like you keep the money in the Persian community, though, hey, I don't mean they'll send you to their cousin. I think. I think with Persians what happened is culturally, if you very similar to, I think, Asian culture, Indian culture, that if you don't be calm, a engineer, a doctor, a lawyer, you are worthless to your family. Yeah, so I think that generational situation sort of ended with my generation, where there's people lashing out like fuck you, I'm going to be in real estate and going I don't need school. And now they're becoming millionaires from real estate. You know what I mean? The community run real estate now. So it's I think it's it was always a cultural thing to just you have to be the best or you're not anything at all. You know. See, that's interesting because you guys at least had, you know, doctors, lawyers, some type of vocational you know thing in the black community, if you didn't play a sport, you know, you're fucked, like what else are you going to do if you can't dribble a basketball are you can't do this, like, how else are you going...

...to go to college? You know, it's that was the only two things, only three things that you could do in order to get out the hood. You guys got the option to go to not only college, but go to Grad School, and you know it spend an extra four years, an extra four hundredzero dollars on a certificate. Well, I want to ask you about that, Justin because you are from Louisiana and I think that a lot of people, including myself, have a perception of what it is like being black in the south. I don't have a pretty picture in my mind. So I would like if you could tell me what it was like in Louisiana, the difference that you felt from there to here as being a black, gay men girl. You know, because, honey, it is also still pride month and you know we can't forget Juneine. So we could just mix the two day together, baby, like hmm, let's just put it all together. You know, growing up in South Louisiana as a gay black man was really tough because I also went to a predominantly white school so when I was in the black community, I wasn't black enough because of how I spoke and where I went to school, you know, and I wasn't masculine. I was getting. You say how you spoke. That means you spoke properly. I spoke properly. I went you know, I went to you know, I spoke like white people. Is How they would say. Right, so, right now. And people use to tell me I talked black because I was speaking with slank. So I get the racial yeah, no, I got a thing. Yeah, exactly. And then when you went to the white school, you know, people's parents didn't really want you over their houses because you were blacking gay, like you were the gay kid. Like no one's parents wanted me at their house. And they didn't make like any type of like. They didn't make any qualms about it, they didn't hide it, they didn't say, you know, we have too many people, like they straight up told me. I'm I remember going to my best friend's house. I was twelve years old, and we were driving up to the house and he is his mom turned around and said, Hey, do you mind waiting until the garage door closes, because my mother, Liz across the street and doesn't want to see you getting out of the car from across the street because you're black. And Are you gitting me? But the way she said it, by the way, at twelve years old, I didn't even think anything of it. Like it, you didn't. I didn't happen to my head. That no, because there was my life, like that's where I grew up, like I understand, you know what I mean. Like where I grew up there was a railroad track and the railroad track divide it the black side and the white side. So that's how I was born. So it was just very interesting now looking back on it and being, you know, thirty three years old, it didn't phase me because I knew it didn't have anything should do with me. I also knew that there was like a level of ignorance that people have that if you don't know better, you can't do better. And if my friends mom was raised that way, the only way she could do better in her life is by letting me come there. She didn't have the nuts, the balls, are the knowledge, are the words, to stand up to her mother and say, you know, I know you guys are old school, but our family's going to embrace a different way of life. You either love it or you leave it, like she didn't have those words, and you know, it's just, it's real. was really interesting, like I'd I got that a lot, I really did, and I will say knowing that I wasn't ever going to be seen as an equal in that town really gave me the strength to get the fuck out. Like I will howl there if I would tell you. Fine, how well, how all do you think you are around when you you got that knowledge of what it's like in the world. I came to Los Angeles at first of all, I saw the hills. Once you see the hills, you're kind of like, oh my God, all they do is party and go to lunch in Los Angeles, like I really want to see that, like I want to go there. And the first time I ever came to Los Angeles I was seventeen years old and all my friends were going to Li do. I pretended like I was not feeling well and I got in a cab and I told the guy to take me where all the gay but guys go. How wait, how old were you when you came out? How when did you come out? Eyes? I was like a silent Fart. I kind of seeped out. Okay, okay, Ha, I was sleeping out. I'm trying to paint the Hall Picture Justin Okay, yeah, okay, okay, kind of okay, I kind of seeped out. So I came here at seventeen. I wasn't out. I went to a gate club. I saw the hottest man I'd ever seen in my life. His name is Ryan Floyd. He's still around, and I just thought, Oh...

...my God, the dudes like look like this here. They're holding hands, they're getting pizza on the corner, they're eating ice cream, they're doing coke in public. All of it was like, you know, all of it was like killing me. I couldn't believe like what was happening. So when I went home at seventeen, I kind of had that idea in my mind, but I knew I had to go to college. I was like, you know, there's no way I could just move here. So I would visit two or three times a year, come back see people that I had met or that I knew, and I moved here for a year in college, had a great time and when I went back my junior year, I kind of went back with a Bowlo on. Like I just was like fuck it, I've made out with the man. I love it. Yes, I am skinny and I fucking free and I'm leaving as soon as I get out of college. And so what is college life in Louisiana's a gay black man? What is it like it? Do you get Du people mess with you? Is it a bad things? And do people beat you up? And do people love you for it? What? How does it work in Louisiana? Now University, now for you, for you, Oh, for you know, I was protected. I was protected. I knew all the bougie ladies. I worked at the hottest restaurant in Louisiana from this since I was fourteen until I was twenty two. So I work the front door, basically at motherfucking Katana. Remember, Katana was the bomb. I was the Matridi at this place called Tsunami in Laugh Yette and if you wanted a table and if you wanted to get a hook up, you had to come through me base. So when I ran downtown, I yes, it's like, you know, everybody has that one gay guy that everyone loves in the town. So nobody can really fuck with him. That was me. I was the gay dude. I learned how to I learned how to manipulate, I learned how to go to the weddings and tell the brides they were the shit, like I did all. I did all the right things to survive, if that makes sense. Would you say that? Would you say that when the black lives matter of movement began and went in deeper and deeper, would you feel that you were still that everybody's favorite Gay Guy? Did you feel a difference in your groups? Because I know a lot of people, and I kept reading a lot about it in the gay community, that a lot of gay colored people were very upset that they're gay white friends were not stepping up for them, because gay people are still considered a minority, just as color people were minorities. So to not have them step up, I saw a lot of tension there. So did that? Did anything change for you from being everybody's favorite, you know, Gay Black Guy Friend? Yeah, you know, for me, I got angry at not angry. I was a little disappointed that the white gays didn't step up and step out, because I remember when Y'all wanted to get a poodle with your boyfriend Marshall, and adopt a baby and get married for proper a bitch was there marching and she was here and she was, you know, cheering, and a lot of black women were there marching with you guys as well. I was marching for equal rights and Arage and all that it starts. I'll still do it. There was a lot of people, especially black people. Marsha p Johnson is the mother of Gay Pride. She is the reason why we have celebrations, why we have pride month. She was a Black Trans woman and you couldn't walk up and down Saint a Monica Boulevard with your rainbow flag on if that woman wouldn't have put her life on the line, stood in front of cops and really champion what you were a lot of times people forget that. So when it wasn't about the White Gaze, and I get it, I get it at first. No one wants to alienate anyone, no one wants to lose a sponsor, no one wants to be put on the spots at their at their mother's house, and I think a lot of I think a lot of it has to do with that fight was so long ago that the white gaze. Forgot what it felt like to be discriminated against the white gays. Forgot would it felt like to not have all of your rights. So they just needed a reminder. And I always tell people you can't be mad at people for not getting involved. You have to just tell people and you have to tell yourself that everyone has a different conferent level. You know, you might have a different conferent level than me. I can't get mad at you, but I will if I can remember it when you're when it's your turn and when you have a problem that you need help with and you need to ally, I will fucking remember it. But I'm not going to be mad at you because you didn't turn up when I needed you too, because,...

...you know what, maybe back that ass up. Isn't your song. Maybe you might get turned up when hot in here it comes on. You don't mean like I exactly. You just have to remember that, like, people are human and and just because you're going through it doesn't mean that they're not going through something else, like the fear of being I remember the fear of being out it. Yeah, but you just said the operative two words right there. People are human. That's the thing. All people are human at and it's not being conducted as as being human. I mean you're saying that you gave a little bit of a reminder to maybe some of your weight white gay friends about what was going on. I get the reminder every single time I step foot in an airport. You know, people don't realize being a Middle Eastern Muslim is the most hated around the world, not just in America but the world. I cannot go into an airport without being taken to the side because I have a name that just will forever do that to me. So I don't ever need the reminder of people not being there for me because, as a human being, like you said, we all are, I will be there for that person's cause if they do need it, because maybe in that moment they'll feel enough like shit to realize, wow, other people are being here for me, just like with this, you know, black lives matter, when it was more special seeing white people joining in that March. For me, then it not the ones that were doing it for the instagram cloud pictures, you know, the ones they were just trying to say they care. Not those the real ones. But, by the way, I and again I had this conversation with a friend. If you went to the if you went to the black lives matters march and you had four hundred thousand people on that instagram and you went in there and you held a sign and you had a cute little knew matching two piece outfit from Sheen that you needed to tag on there and you said black lives matters, I don't give a fuck because out of the four hundred thousand people that you have on your instagram account, maybe two hundred and Fiftyzero of them didn't know what you were doing and but all they saw was that black lives matters. I don't care what you do. We all give to charity to make ourselves feel better. We give to charity to get the get the discount on your taxes, to get that little bit of a you know return. Like we do nice things for reasons and I don't care, no matter if, and and that was a big issue between me and my black friends, is that I just I always said, like I know black people who didn't get out of their houses to go march black lives matters. Does that make them less of a black person? Know, maybe they did there. You know, humanitary work on instagram maybe they were preaching to their coworkers. Everyone who opened their mouth or posted something did something. You know what I mean? It's like, I don't give a shit if Kim Kardashian donates two hundred million dollars to some charity because she is in hot water. I just care that we got two hundred million dollars. You don't mean like everyone's like, but is it genuine? I'm like, is the money green? Did the check clear? I am good. Did it clean out? That's all that matters. That's all that matters. Is like, I agree, but shit, and you know, for for us, you know, we have to remember. Yes, you are a Middle Eastern woman and going through a airport is fucking tough. But guess what, as a black man, bitch, I know where you're coming from because, as a black man walking down the street, are driving late at night, are being down a lonely road, when a cop polls you're over, there's the same fear. When you're talking about white people, you know, they don't have that type of they don't have that type of PTSD that you and I have. Are that Jewish people have, where they can tap into that and say, I know how this feels. I've been down that road before. Let me go ahead and let me do something. And you know, I said this with the MEA to movement. Everybody was like, I can't believe these other women aren't standing up for for U, for Women Right now, and I said, you never know what's going on in other people's homes, but also sometimes no one knows what to say or what to do in the tight said situation. You know me like it's just a hard thing, especially when you're talking about activism. Yeah, I think it's hard. I'm also just, you know, torn between the two sides. I've brought a number of guests on the podcast that have told me to just if I want to be successful in my business life, I have to never voice my opinion politically or religiously or or what I've culturally through my instagram. And then, you know, and I would love to be rich and and...

...remain rich and be just extravagant with money, but then I also have this side of me that just cannot sleep at night without saying something about something or doing something about something. I can't, I feel, in genuine if that makes sense. Yeah, you, but, like you said, is the money green though? Can I feel in genuine and and and be rich? Why not? I think there's a I think there is a line and there is something that you can, you can really skirt on. There's like a thin line that you can skate on. You know, and I tell everybody you know, with the whole equalox thing, it was a huge ordeal that everybody wanted to boycott equal Knox because somebody gave money to trump's campaign. Yana, Yana, Yana, and I was like, that's great for you, but if you follow the paper trail back to your check, if I do the six degrees of separation in my company, I'm sure somebody up at high up there who signs that check is going to be a Republican. I dated somebody who is a Republican. Do I think he's a bad man? I don't think he's a bad man at all. Do I think that he didn't think about other people at times? Yes, but I'm also not going to cut those people out of my life because they want to stay quiet to save their money. That's between you and God. You will have to talk to St Peter When you get up to the gate, and Y'all have to talk about black lives matters not be so you don't mean like I ain't doing shit? Yeah, yeah, no, it's interesting that you brought up the political side, even though this whole entire conversation as a political thing. A lot of people don't know that June teeth being passed as a federal law was Donald Trump's beginning and biden was the one who signed it into order. So it to me. I don't care if someone's Republican or Democrat, I just care with their their specific views are on on life, on humanity, on our economy, in in it being safe, in US thriving, you know, not the other way around. So you know, I don't know. I don't want to. I don't want to go into a whole political thing because it is going to go way off the roster and then it's just going to be like, you know, yeah, just how I love you. I love you for being here. Thank you for being here on on on the first pre day Juneteen, to holiday with me. We're going to take a quick break, but when we come back. So women fuck up in the sense that they schedule a dinner day and for me, as a gay man, a I don't want to eat in front of anybody I don't really like, but also I don't want to spend that much time with some moody. Okay, I'm a I'm alive, I'm here, but no, thank you so much for for being here and talking about this and we appreciate all your insights. And okay, so we have this game. It's called forgive me, I have sinned, and this is where I light my join up. Lad of Susan's talking a new I. You haven't lit up at all this whole time. Let's going on with you, Jare we go, like what I care? When I'm there, she keeps smoking so that I get the second or Sola or Soloa hit it for you. Don't first live hide the giands or Sela is yes, okay, so this is your first question. Have you ever lied to get out of a bad date? Oh, all the time. Once a month. What? Once a month? Are you crazy? Some month? Oh God, way, maybe. Wait, wait, what is your worst lie? Then I need to know what is your worst, absolute worst, and I'm you're like a you seen one, something came up or work. I can't, it is Jlo, I can't. I can't pass it up. It's always like a big celebrity. It's always like, and it's a diva, that no one's going to question me. Like it's like, Oh, I'm seeing selling dion tonight, I'm interviewing her, like no one's going to be like, no, you know, Oh my God, maybe next time. If you see I'm going to go see gg, no one will believe you because the no one knows who I am. According to Kelly Dot let's say you're sitting down at the table. have to do it like before the day. Oh, so you see you on the day, get your engine day on your go, like you're there. So this is where girls make this is where girls make the rest. Not Tell where women make the worse mistake. Tell us, tell us. So women fuck up in the sense that they schedule a dinner day and for me, as a gay man, Ay I don't want to eat in front of anybody I don't really like, but also I don't want to spend that much time with some money. So I always, and this is a rule of thumb, I always schedule a drinks drink situation, and I prefectin like I...

...have a dinner with a friend right after. That's already been scheduled. So you need to be. You don't give them too much and then you cut them off at an hour so they want some more. It also set you up not to give away the nookie on the first few dates. Oh, I love you. I just I mentally wrote that down because, you know, I'm trying to the polyamory thing right now, so I need to learn new thank you, you know, even though I'm going to be honest with them and just be like, I'd rather go to the other guy right now. I'm sorry. You know, I'm gonna take you up on the Selene Dion thing. Yeah, everyone thinks you sling doon if it's a dinner date, like, oh no, I have a work thing, but I can meet you for an hour. And then you have to set your alarm and when the alarm goes off you literally just say, Oh my God, God, I gotta go, I gotta go, and you have to talk yourself to not staying, because a bitch will do that, but you got to be like Nope, gotta go, Miss Me. Thank you. WHO. That's really good. Okay, okay, what's my next notes? Gug take notes. Okay, your next one is okay. So you were the lady sitter for Kyle Richards did her? Did you ever let her kids get away with something really bad and not tell the parents? Oh, letting it, so nice treats. Okay. So what happens when they means do that? You're not. Were you the cool lady sitter babysitter, or were you like the shady, I'm going to snitch on You lady Sitter Babysitter? I was a cool lady sitter. So one of my string microphone Justin. Oh No, no, let it, let's ray this magamone up. One of the first things I ever did with the kids, because Kyle is very, very hands on with her kids and she is shouldn't let anybody do anything with them when they were younger, like she would leave a scene to go pick up porscha to bring her home to go back to the scene. Like she didn't, she didn't play with her kids. So she let me take Alexia, who was thirteen at the time, to a lady got got concert and she was like, I'm going to buy the tickets because I want her to be safe and I want you guys to like sit in a space where like my daughter could be safe. And she brought us these great ass tickets. They were fucking bomb. But I'm like no, whys, like no, bitch, if you're going to go to lady got got concert, you're going to go to lady Gut got concert, we're going in the pit, you're going to be the general population, we're going to dance, we're gonna jam, we're gonna get in a fight because people are going to be crazy. So I bought for extra for other tickets. Yes, that were general population and will. We got to the stadium. I was like, we're gonna sell these, we're gonna buy all the Merch we want and then we're going to go with general pop. But don't ever tell your mom. So, Kyle things we sat I lady Gaga with these thirteen year old and meanwhile we were in the middle of the show. Losh bit. That is a brilliant, brilliant story. I did not think it would be that juicy. I thought you were going to be like yeah, I give the kid extra ice cream one day, but that was a good one right there. Justin I love you so much for doing this. Honestly, the means a lot to me because I look up to you so much. So it's just so cool to be on the other side. I love you. I love you too. And you know what? And, honey, that's when are you? When are you? When are you coming having me come to daily pop to ask me about what's going on between me and MSS Kelly Dodd? Bitch next, hold on, basically, let me, let me get on that right now. It needs to be like, let me go that right now. Yeah, I love Justin. I know he's really sweet, I know right. I'm glad you got to meet him. He yeah, he is, he's everything. He's like the full package. Yeah, AH, do you think? Do you think it was like? I don't know. I feel like we wanted to talk about juneteenth and we wanted to still kind of incorporate pride in it, and I mean, I felt like Justin was such a perfect guest to and he brought so much information forward. HMM, he's rooted now. He was really he was really good. Yeah, he's really great. And just the fact that, like you know, he grew up in the south, the Louisiana, and then he you know, as a gay guy. So that's that even that right there, and then he, you know, came here and coming out and doing it in a silent way and just everything about him and just where he got himself and being raised in Louisiana as a black guy is really tough as it is. And then, yeah, just to have to hide being gay the whole time. And then now he's look at him, educated like doing all these like, you know, so successful and and he's just he definitely is. I mean he has quite a...

...few, many interesting stories and there he's just so funny and in colorful when he tells the stories. It's just fun to, you know, listen just his connections, you know, back home, and why he's like the man back home is because, you know, you had to go through him if you wanted to go sit in the restaurant, and that's a big deal. He's from a small town. It's like they only have a few options, so he needs to be in like the man man, like like legit, you know what I mean. Oh my God, it's just interesting when you try to tap into each guest's world each time. We have like this short period of time to just start to try to tap into what their lives are like. But yeah, it's always really fun, I think, to get to know people in Justin really is one of my favorite people might eat it. I literally asked them to be the sperm don'tor. I mean, I can you imagine the features that everything. He's tall, he's educated, he's way so you like, I'm to go a couple steps back to you asked him. Yeah, I think when I originally started even talking about the fact that I wanted to get a sperm donor, and I think when everyone was making fun of me, thinking it was a joke or something. Yeah, he had me on daily pop and we spoke and I told him I was like, I'm serious, and I was like I would definitely use someone like you is my sperm. Don't know, you're gorgeous, you're all this your every chuck on the list. Yeah, and he was like okay, so I started calling him baby daddy since then, so it's like two years now. I'm calling Justin Baby Daddy. Okay. Know, so it's cute. He's just a sweetheart. I love him and I hope we do. You guys, Uys have the goods. You guys go way back then. It. Guys have like a pretty solid friendship and yeah, I mean, you know, I just feel like after he said that he was everybody's favorite. It's so true, because I feel like he makes everyone feels so personable and that aspect and he does that to everyone. So it's just like he's just so easily loved, you know what I mean. So I don't know if I have a friendship with him or that's just how he is with you know, he's just a kind and I don't know, I feel like we have a friendship. I mean I asked him to give me his JES for Christ sake. I God that it would have been. Oh my God, you and him. I'm trying to picture. We have to do that theme at it. Think you can take a sort of person's face in your face and you can make are way, your kids and stuff look like. We should try that, because you got to tell Masha, because let's use one of my let's use one of my really good photoshopped pictures were I've had on my plastic surgery done. So it's based off of that face, not truth. He's facetime. Oh my God. I thank you, guys for listening to another episode of genuinely gg I'm having so much fun doing this within Meedo. We're really having a blast. I mean, look, she's out in a whole other state, in the side of the contint at the other side of the continent, just chiming in doing this because she loves it. So if you love us, if you don't love us, right that review, give us the rating and please subscribe. Please be pleased right. Love you. Thanks for listening to Geminely GIG. download new episodes every week and, if you haven't already, subscribe and be sure to leave us a rating and review and, while you're at it, check out some of the other great shows available on Straw hut media.

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