Genuinely GG
Genuinely GG

Episode · 9 months ago

GG & Anita On Confess Your Mess!

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Tune in this week to hear GG & Anita's appearance on Confess Your Mess! **This week, AJ and Emile face the prospect of parenthood with guests Golnesa "GG" Gharachedaghi & Anita Gohari. GG is best known for starring in Bravo's "Shahs of Sunset," and Anita is a renowned event planner to the stars. The "Genuinely GG" podcast hosts and best friends react to audience-submitted secrets about parenthood, give parenthood advice, and share some WILD secrets of their own. Want to find out why GG literally falls out of her chair in shock? Just press play**

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STRAWT media. Hello, we're back. Wait, where are we? In the void? Waits, floating through space and time right now? It was the strangers, things called stranger, the other upside down, upside down. Upside down could be okay, okay, well, the upside down. This is where you confess your mess. That's where. Come on, we're in the messy zone. We got messy today. Oh, we also are real and ways is not expect it's our first double head are we had two guests together. We had gg from shawls of sunset and her best friend and genuinely gg podcast cohost, Anita. Yes, it's from my state of Ohio, my own states. We were recently on their podcast and so we had to have them in our podcast. Oh No, no, we didn't have to do anything. We didn't. We want to answer to our podcast because they're fine. It was amazing, like such a fun EPS and Y'all, I'm not even kidding you. There are some jaw dropped, like hit the floor moment. I this is why listen, this is why Gigi's been in reality TV for so long, because there is not a single thing she won't reveal. Yeah, her secret, you would think. You would think her secret is the biggest reveal, and it might have been, but it was very, very different from Anita's, which also left US grounded. Listening literally not the air out of had of US shook. And of course, as always, we revealed some secrets. The thing this episode. Talk about your swollen penis at one? Wow, do we really? That's not the thing today's episode. Let's just get into the show in you here it all. You know her from Shaws of sunset. You know she doesn't hold back. What is so wrong with exploring it if it's just bringing you pleasure? This is genuinely gig. Welcome back. To confess your master super, super excited. We've got a double date situation happening right now. This is the first time we've had we've had a double on the show. Yes, this is exciting. Double the fun. Yeah, double the pleasure, double the fun. I'm a J he's ee. Our first guest is gg her moniker. Her initials are so iconic. Everybody knows gg from shaws of sunset. Her podcasted genuinely gg and she's on our show today. We're super excited and she's brought her good friend and cohost from genuinely gg with her. Yeah, Anita go hardy. She has her own event company, so she plans fabbed this events. We found out before the show that she does all of Dd's events and now, since we're playing a wedding, she's going to send us some inspo because we just got back from Mexico and we were doing all of our plan also overwhelmed. Yeah, very overwhelmed. Oh okay. So also, Geg is a new mom and you know we we're going to we're going to focus on the wedding right now, but we're talking about having kids sometime down the line. That wait. We I just got to tell you, ladies, really quickly before we get into this thing. I've tried to bring up kids. We've been together nine years and I bring them up all the time and he usually just like start sweating and walks away from well, so for him to say this right now is a big so I think this isn't the big deal. I forgot the theme of the episode. Today's thing for secrets his parenthoods of course I'm going to bring it on there. So close listen. Saying is is there a times stamp on that kind of CARE's the thing, because Aj is nine and a half years older, and so we've talked about this. He's forty one. I'm thirty one by around. So when we get married I'll be thirty two, he'll be thirty one. Still, I would like to buy like MIDT's, like forty five is right. Yeah, I think that's a great age from men. Yeah, yeah, you're straight. I just think for men that's a great age to have kids. I feel like you're so much more grounded and more content with yourselves at that age. Totally. I was a disaster my entire s and most my parents. I'm finally settling in. Yeah, and we're super, super excited, but we're supercited for you. Congratulations, by the way, on motherhood. It's just it's been incredible watching your journey over the years and how much you've changed and evolved. Anita, I am going to pick your brain because one, you're an Ohio girl, I am, which is incredible. and to like amill said, we're desperately in need of some inspiration and guidance. Feeling to wedding planners already, but if we can, will take all the help we can get. So the funny thing is with these and I don't know if you're like this, but like will ask certain questions and then the responses that come back to us make it seem like we've done this before and we like we've never been married. If, like, you came to Anita for a consultation right now, like Anita, how would you do with them right now, like how do you work your magic? Girl? Well, first you we start with what is your budget? So that's a big thing. So, because that kind of sets the tone for you know, then and then again it's inspiration, like what's the theme, like what direction you want to go and what's your what color theme? Is there a theme? Like you want to do an s theme, you want to do gatsby theme. So just the fact that it's a destination wedding, like does that help the theme?...

How does our work? Destination helps a little bit because of well, if I can say where you're in Mexico, were getting if everyone bided its roll, can be there. We're gonna say which hotel. But but yeah, know, that just that sets the the tone up because usually when it's in Mexico, I feel like it's more of a Boho it's more sheep she right. You know, could do a fun theme, like the night before, if you want, of like someone we know, color and colors, and then maybe tone it down a little bit for the actual wedding. Really good, because our this also makes me feel good about our wedding plan. Or Yeah, she's actually said the exactly we are doing, like a welcome party the night before. Yes, it's going to be bright and vibrant and wild and in the day of a little bit more mused. So I guess. So it's we've heard it twice now, so I guess that's the W let's be doing something right, right. Yeah, now we're also and also, you know, it's really interesting in before you get in the show. It's so fascinating. You bring it budget, and that's such a weird thing to talk about too, because obviously we have plans long term. M You know, it's for us it's wedding, then a house and then a child. So those are like our big, big budget goals for the next couple. And as the same sex couple or twins. Yeah, you know, that would be fantastic. Wow, and done to and done. Wow. I mean I think the most expensive one out of that list is a child because, yeah, as as gay men, as it meant, and you you that's all spensive to get. Sarah gets to get donors and it's so hard to find egg donors. I thought I didn't realize how difficult it is compared to like sperm donors. Yeah, it's it's a whole thing it. Yeah, and when you do find them, like when you finally find that match. Yeah, expensive. So it's part of the reason we love Mexico so much, but we can also go to Mexico and get a wedding that would cost hundreds of thousands of dollars here in Los Angeles for much, much less, right. That's kind of part of the reason. It's interesting, though, like Anita have, I have to ask this. This is literally me getting advice right now for a wedding when I start going down the rabbit hole of florals. All right, all of a sudden I see I see it. I'm so I start thinking, I'm like ours is going to be crapped now because I'm looking at this and they spend a million dollars on flowers like until it looks insane and we're not doing anything like that. As you like, how do you? How do you like rain it in? How do you kind of get somebody's brain wrapped around. This is your budget, this is what you're going to get, but it's still going to look gorgeous. You have the time of your life. I can't wait to hear the answer this, because Ania is all about the flowers. No, I can't wait. I ony am Oh, I am all about the flowers, but I also think it really depends on the couple, because some people say like, and that's another question I ask. I'm like, what's the what's more important for you that you people come and they have great food, great alcohol, great music and a good time and they just leave there with like, or do you not really care so much about that and you want it's just about everyone coming in and being wowed by the by the flowers and stuff that they're going to forget about. Yeah, so if my client has the budget to do it all, I'm just going to make him do it all and it's going to be beautiful, like whatever. But I think it's more just about the experience and you could do really pretty. There's a ways to cut the corners and use different types of like use more greenery. Greeners a little bit cheaper than the flowers. You can still have this beautiful installation and just have a little POPs of like flowers in it. Yeah, kind of where we are too, and I think being in Mexico, were surrounded by just gorgeousness already. So our thought processes. I really want people to have the time of their lives and I want them to enjoy the food, yes, and the music and just live it up. And also a lot of our FAM I have family who's getting passports for the very first time. They've never left the country before. How Wow, just being here will be like extraordinary for them. That's the thing too, like if the room is it inside a reset, it's the doors outdoor. So that's exactly yeah, that's amazing. Yeah, this prey, it doesn't rain. All right, let's do the show sea, the Nice let the theme as parents, and that our wedding. But we're getting Gedi's like, my name is on podcast, you guys. Yeah, I will say. I will say that we were recently on GG and Anitas podcast. Genuinely DG. So check that out. Our episode is a hot mess. We're talking about secrets. So it's a fun episode. So definitely check that out. But also, you know, we talked about we're going to be doing the wedding, than a house, then kids. So we want to make sure this podcast is successful. So go to Itunes, if you have the PODCAST APP, and rate five stars. Leave us a comment. Share with your friends, your enemies, we really don't care. The person at the grocery store, the construction work, random stranger. Right, let everybody know about this podcast because it's a mess. It's confess your mess and if you want to get on the POD, also head over to confess your mess dot us. You can s secrets there. You can even leave us an audio note and if so, we might play your audio on our pod. Yeah, give us some advict give advice or reactions to your secrets, along with our celebrity guests, who this week happened to be Gigi and Anita. Yes, shall we dig in? Okay, so, as we always say, we haven't seen any of these secrets. Are Amazing, producer. Frank they go through they find the best secrets for...

...the episode. We had so many submissions for parenthood. I did not know that that many of my followers were parents or we're in that life. I thought I had younger followers. Would apparently we have a lot of parents. So I'm going to scroll down right now and get to the first secret. This is also without even letting our our listeners know the GIG was going to be on that. We just about her secrets. Yeah, so good, so goods is fun. Okay, so the first one. It's anonymous female from Dallas. I am forty four and my husband is forty one. I had kids early and the last Birdie is leaving the nest. I have been monogamous in our nineteen years of marriage, but I am thinking about, oh, opening up our marriage to explore sexually. I want in the visual exploration, but I want the safety of security of my marriage. Male or female. Not sure. Wait a minute, you know. I why is this anonymous? First of all, I want to because person hello, welcome, right, polly Emery, one hundred and one hundred judgment free zone. This is interesting because a meal and I always we often joke, but there there's a tens of like seriousness about this that if our parents weren't alive, and God thank God, all four of our parents are alive and well, hope you're not lest yeah, but if they weren't, we seriously consider getting it. Do any only fans, do you know? I need so oftentimes we get we get so in our heads about things like this, and it sounds like this woman is saying we waited till our kids, which is their equivalent of parents, because for us as our parents, but then they waited till the kids were out of the house. Yeah, and now they want to explore they that. Yes, she does, and she wants, Indi. Visual exploration. That do we feel about the individual side of it? I mean, obviously she has to have a conversation or partner, but if she's confessing this secret, then it sounds like maybe she's scared to even have that conversation. G If this woman were sitting in front of you right now, what would you say to her? Um, okay, so I'm more of a logical bass person, not emotion based person. So for me I would first be a little concerned for the children, because if you are, as a parent, living a lie and dismissing yourself and your wants and your needs. But I know it sounds bad to say this, but even though it's for your own child's sake, or so to speak, in your mind you think it's where your child's sake. It's really not. It's so truly within you and you're scared of that, because what are you teaching your child's because if they are gay or a lesbian or whatever, they can't be saying, Oh, I'm not going to say anything because I don't want to like hurt my family. Know you have to write. So I sort of don't like the message of that leads. But I am happy that maybe this is it a manner a woman to desert the one here. Yeah, I'm just happy that, you know, she's come to the point where it's like, okay, I'm ready to try to now be my authentic self. But I mean now, how are you going to explain that to your children when they are because there are adults now and they understand that and they're might run into you or over here a story or something. The Mommy's now with another man or another woman. You know, what about dotty? What is daddy doing? Does daddy know now you're fucking up the child. You know that's true. So I would say a lot of therapy is needed right there. Yeah, get ready for that, Ye, for that bill I need. I'm curious because, and without giving names of course, but you've done some major major events in your event planning career and I remember we are at a wedding one time and it was so stunning, over the top, gorgeous, and right before the reception we heard the newly betrothed couple, who are good friends of ours, like kind of have any argument, like it was pretty heated and we were like let's just walk away and just let this day play out and support them right. So you know things about the couples behind the scenes. Have you worked with couples who have other things going on on their relationships and they might be having, you know, val renewal or an engagement or something together, but there's a side piece in the next and the guest just don't know about the side piece. Oh my God, Wa wait, would you say something if you knew about a side piece and those people about to renew some vows? No, like I don't. Every couple that I've been with like everyone. Everything's been fine between them. That you know from Ohio. She's so good, listen so much to know. She would have the only I think the old there was one client that the husband at the time with the fiance, wanted her to sign a prenuptial agreement and that was she was hotly and I was like so she would confide in me and talk to me about it, like what do I do? I want to sign this and this and that, and if I don't, he's like going to marry me and I don't know when. And I was just kind of like, I don't know what to tell you, like just you know, but it was kind of like, I mean, obviously they got married, so she signed it. But yeah, I yes, you're getting nervous about giving advice on prenups, which you shouldn't have to do, by the way. Yeah, I wouldn't want you giving me advice on like whether or not I should go sleep with somebody else, but I'm getting married to this guy. Here's here's...

...what I'll say to this person, this anonymous be milion Dallas. First of all, Texas Front, the South in general, stirs things bigger and Texga, so I need but it can be more conservative, and I will say that we talked about this actually on you guys podcast. We talked about how ag and I had that facetoface conversation. We kind of like let all of our walls down and just really opened up to each other with our deep darkened secrets and fantasies and kinks and Kinks, and I feel like she should have a conversation with our partner and just really open up the the the I'm kind of on the logical side with the UGG though, because the fear is yes, they can have those those barriers down and have that conversation. I think where I find fault is if ag and I were married for nineteen years, we have the kids and then Aj said I wanted to explore sexually, I could be open to that. I think for me it's the individual exploration, because that sounds like you just especially since they said I want individual exploration by want the safety and security of my marriage. To me, I can be mature about that, but it sounds like you kind of just she wants to have her cake and eat it exactly. Yeah, and I don't know if I would be okay with that's work get a little bit tricky. I like we said on your podcast, the two of US having conversations about things that were curious about, sexual or otherwise, actually made the urge or the the curiosity settle down. Just being able to talk about kinks with your partner and finding out that they're down makes it feel like almost like, oh no, I don't have the secret anymore. I have a secret together and we don't even have to act do on it anymore, because we're one of those rare couples that that most couples that we know that are that are same sex, are male couples. Open relationships are super, super common. We're not. That's not who we are. That doesn't mean we never would consider or never have considered it, we're just not there. And I and it's nine years in and I don't have any plans to change that. I don't think he does either. Right Um. But yeah, she needs to talk to him and fight, because he might be into it too or he might be like, honey, a lot of times people go away to college, their kids go to college, then they divorce. Yeah, they kept it together for the family for so long and then they realize we we're not into each other anymore. And that could happen. And forty four and forty one, it could be on the verge of like this midlife crisis, like because much the new your forty is forty one is my age, so that means I have a kid going to college. That means, like she said, you started really, really young. I've have a is a little hoe in these streets, in they s third you know. I mean not too far into my dirty side, because I met you right, right, right, and you and you straighten me out right. But yeah, they might just want to go experience what the rest of us got to experience in our twenty right through. That's true. That's particularly another reason I don't necessarily believe in the concept of marriage or this scripted by society type of relationships. I don't conform to that. I do believe as humans we are able to readapt ourselves. Can also our emotions, and it's almost impossible to say you can never be attracted to something else ever again. But yes, and when those feelings and urges are much more significant, what is so wrong with exploring it if it's just bringing you pleasure round that's where you know the mentality. Yeah, and you're not hurting something. You have one life, right, like, live your life. Side note before we get into the next secret. Where did we need to find out? where? You got like that genuinelydd sign behind you from? That's sorry, yeah, that's good. Oh my God. Okay, so anita being the event planner all the parties that I have that she does for me. You know, yes, a signage place. I've had different signage for like Elijah's birthday parties, and so I was I girl, where your match with your people gets some signage. May So, Anita, this is all Anita, the sign org yeah, yeah, no, I love it. Okay, okay. So I'm bomped by the way that I know you guys sooner. So I could be your wedding planner. You know, you do what a kind of doing. So maybe like for your you know, kids birthdays or you know, of course there be so many more of it. But also, hearing about your love of Florals, I feel like we probably dodged the bullet and saved, yeah, ends of thousands of dollars too. So it's okay, it's I would compromise all that. So it Ohio girl, I gets it. Okay. So this is anonymous female Florida. Whenever you get secrets from Florida, I'm not saying as wild. You know, I learned years ago. You remember, back in the day when they used to do a spring breakdown and on MTV. Oh yeah, bring breakdown floor and it was always Panama City. And Yeah, we're the Ohio people. For one first scene, pall, we stayed at the Sandpiper Beacon. It was trash via the time of her life, right, I remember. I remember free I was like polly shore or one of those like icons back on the day. It could it could have been like it could have been what's your name? Jenny McCarthy was somebody like that. And they refer to Florida as America's penis and that is stuck with me my entire life because a lot of Dickson Florida, a lot of wild stories coming out of the State of Florida. I'm not saying. I'm not saying this woman. I mean you know you did. You just you said. Also, just side note, if you need some fun activity to do sometimes when you're high...

...or drunk or whatever you are in life, just search on Google Florida man and any like, anything, any word, and it's just it's or search. Yeah, sort search Florida man and put your birthday and you can find out. Yeah, crazy shit. Yeah, and on your birthday. It's a lot of it's wild. We're going to take a quick break, but when we come back and I think yeah, and I think my at one point. I think my parents kind of give up on me because they don all they did. Know, they don't seem say I'm a big kid. This is another secret that my parents have a big hits that I can't handle having a kid. GD have been waiting for this. I'm going to read it now. Anonymous Female Florida. Do not have kids and all caps. I repeat, don't do it, and if you do, just remember I warned you. Lol. I swear the people who normalize having kids are other parents, because they want to watch other people suffer and be on our level. I'm sure this is the only reality response you're going to get, but I have to say it. Y'All, love to travel, love to work, Love Sleep, so just say no. This is specifically to the two. I guess so, and if you decide to against my wishes, Lol, I tell everyone only have one. Don't listen to the inner voice that says he or she is lonely. They need a sibling to play with you. That's why always she put they do not in all caps. They do not like each other. So if you have more than one, get ready to have no hair either, because you're officially a motherfucking referee for life. That's funny, my God. So I'm assuming this person has kids. Yeah, multiple, and they're telling us do not do it. If the wrong decision. Okay, but look, yeah, becoming a mother gg, I'm sure, was a massive decision for you. Yeah, we saw. We saw to the source of Saul, that evolution happened for you on camera over the years, on tiles of sunset. Yeah, but do you want more? Or you get good with kids? Yeah, Um, I think I'm good. I don't know. If I ever meet someone and we share that in common, and I wouldn't mind. But it's a difficult decision for me to make because I chose from my son to be a donor and it would be a little weird on choosing a significant other to have a child with. You know, what psychological effect does I put on my child that I didn't give a father to? You know, why did I give it to his brother or sister but not to him? So I don't know if I'm willing to do that to Eli, but maybe, you know, if I got to that point, I don't know, it's something I would have to think about and I would have to understand if my son would be the type to be able to understand that. Would you go through the same process of having another child to give it live my brother or sister without another man involved? Would you do that again? I don't think so. I'm I'm forty years old. I like, yeah, it's don't you're not for you yet. Well, I'm almost in November, which is a like next month. So yeah, I mean I think I don't think I would. I don't think I would, even though I try to, you know, maintain myself and take care of myself. I'm really happy right now with one kid, and I'll be honest with you. For that, that little secret that just came through. HMM, I agree with a lot of it. HMM, I agree with a lot of it, and I would tell a lot of people don't ever have a child, so we're not having kid it. I would have an unless behind it. There's an unless to me and it the only thing I would say behind that unless is unless you are individually whole. Yeah, not have a child. Who say that again? Say That again. That's all that comes down to, because if you are whole, then you can give something. You can you're already complete. You're not lacking already to be giving to your child and be turning that somehow into submissiveness, that you're putting your set last, because, whether it's financially, emotionally psychologically, that takes a toll on you and that turns you into a person and we see miserable parents who, you know, are just resentful of their kids because they are trying to do everything to give to their kids and they can barely survive. So all those pop don't have a fucking kid. Yeah, all you what I need is knew g no, I hear that. I hear that. It's so interesting to because my life, the narrative has always been my dad's been married four times. I love him. We're finally at a good place in our life now that he's a little bit older and he's finally, after you know, almost two decades, accepted like the gayness of me and our relationship. He loves a meal dearly. It's going to be at the wedding. Like we're sort of a very different place. Yeah, but it took him fifteen years to look me in the eyes and say the word gay after I came out to him. So that was a journey right and he's been married four times. Unfortunately, his first wife died a couple years into the relationships, so I think that set him on a path of sort of destructive relationships. One of them happened to be my mom, and he had kids with different women all along the way. Some of them he was a parent to, some of them he really wasn't. And I my thing was...

...always well, Gosh like straight people can just go like hook up one night and be up father or whatever, and they're allowed to as many times as they want to. But as a gay man, I have to jump through so many hoops and makes so many decisions to prove that I'm worthy to even consider starting the family. So it's something that you talked about. The wholeness. I think one of the benefits of being in the same sex relationship is, and this is what I where I think the kids benefit too oftentimes, is that we're not having kids by mistake. Right, like we've thought it out nice, we've talked through it, plan for it financially and there's no surprise. Yeah, it wasn't just we had a honeymoon and mom daddy had so much love and they made you right. I've been trying to set. Did you I've been trying to put a baby in this one for a decade now. Just work. I'm gonna keep trying. We're trying to this one was up, because I'm not a quitter. Here's what I'll say. As a I'm not a single child, but I call myself a pseudo only child because my sister and our eighteen years apart. Well, and we have different fathers, but he's very much an only try. Yeah, very much on the count. I always got what I want, like I'm there baby like, and so for me, though, when she said they're going to hate each other, I don't know if I necessarily would have hated a sibling. I think I would have liked the sibling that could grow up with, because a day knows, like I was a lonely ch out. I was very lonely, and then there were no kids in my neighborhood. Do you know? I'm still scarred by this. The only kids in the neighborhood lived across the street at Miss Drake's house. They're all monster kids, drake, I'll become friends with the foster kids. Then they would get adopted. Good for them, but then I had no friends and so growing up, and then I had no pet. I wanted a goldfish one year and then over a going down the right trajectory, and then that's not a pet. That didn't about what I know. But wait, so I ask you something. Yeah, what was your Goldfish is name? Well, I never came up with the one because I'd never got it. Ever got it. Oh, you never got I never got it. I want it when I would you. I'm gonna tell you this my cohost. This is a real so I host a show called the morning beat. It's the nation's first LGBTQ plus talk radio show, right and it's here in Los Angeles, down the street, five mornings a week for four hours a day. I host the show and my cohost, Michaela Gordon, she's been on their pod. She's from American and I all she's been in the game for a long time. She's fantastic. She's also on my very best friends and one morning she says to me, while we're live on the air, she goes, Oh my God, Ruth Beata Ginsburg died, and I was like, it's like a year and a half ago, and I'm like, Whoa this when trump was still president. Were like this the everybody's worst nightmare, right, and this was I go, Oh my God, my God, my God, no, no, this is breaking news. Ruth beat Againsburg has died, Supreme Court justice. I'm going into my my news, breaking news voice, and she was this is all live on there. She's Oh no, honey, my goal, my Beta fish, I have a Beta fast. She named it Ruth Beta Ginsburg, and I was like Beta, you so much, right now. And a few months later she died in real life and I blame it to this day on Michaela Gordon on the Beta face. We're dying. No, on Michaela Gordon for putting that out into the eard. What to be fantasy this day. Ruth Beta really in my seat. Yeah, we want kids. It's but it's also I want to ask you in either because you like I'm curious to know. Did you feel pressure growing up to like babies in a big family and do the whole thing, and, if so, was that more cultural? was that from your culture or was that from the fact that you grew up in Ohio and everybody has babies by the time they're twenty two? No, definitely, that's a good question. No, it was it was definitely more cultural. Luckily, my parents weren't that. They pressured me a little bit to get married and a lot stuff, and then and then it just unfortunately, there were happened, and so I think they kind of gave up on me. But my dad, my dad's like he was an obstetrician going to college as he delivered over eight thousand babies. So yes, like he wanted it couldn't be. He wanted he wanted a lot of kids. He wanted we, he wanted us to have like my mom, have like eight kids or something like. Yeah, like me, wanted a huge family. And then should we just you know, my mom only wanted to do the the three and but also Anita's also Persian Jewish and Persian Jewish families and I think Jewish in general, the religion in general, the parents are very strict on their daughters to get married, because it's the woman who make sure that the child is Jewish, Jewish right. So it's a lot of pressure, I feel like. But I feel like, because I know your family, compared to a lot of Jewish families, they're not there. They they want her to just be happy, and Anita's mind, happiness is to be, you know, in love. And I think yeah, and I think my at one point. I think my parents kind of give up on me because they don't know. They did know. They don't seem, say, a big kid. This is another secret that my parentsing a big hid, that I can't handle having a kid. I gave it take care. All My pets have gone. My mom like now has one pet because I get my pettisphere of a child or handle the child or prepared. Until you're a whole, you have that child. Until now you can meet as many books as you want, as many nieces and nephews and all that,...

...but until it's yours, it's something different. Yeah, it's from GG. Is She a good Auntie? She's amazing. I mean honestly, since my son was tiny, when she would walk into the room, his face was light. Now his he puts his head into my arm, like he starts flirting with her and I'm shy, kind of like him, and then he goes up to her and he kind of like, you know, he's like come, sit, sit, sit here. Yeah, like, yeah, he likes Anita. Yeah, I know. I think I think we're I think I'm a good auntie. I don't know if I would be a good parent. I don't know if I'm there yet, if I ever will be. But Luckily, I think at one point, yes, my parents did kind of put a little bit of pressure and then at then it just kind of backed off. Yeah, and and they still kind of put the pressure because my older sisters only had one kid, and which we're all putting the pressure because we're like, rocky needs a sister, a brother, because they're going to be alone. So that's kind of going on to what you guys are saying. So I also think that Elijah should have a kid and a sibling because I think it's important because I'm so close to my sister's yeah, I have a sister and we're not so close. So same. Why have sisters that I'm close to? And also, on the other hand, like I have a sister who we've sort of had religious sort of beef for years now and all of a sudden, out of the blue, she, you know, doesn't think that I'm actually gay and that I need to pray it away, and all these things started happening. And she and okay, is a kind of a born again Christian and and she was my very best friend in the entire world and we don't really have a relationship right now, which is sad because I have two nephews that I don't really get no right now. But so it could really go either way. Let's move on. I want to talk. Yeah, I was like. I was like, it's gonna get dark real fast. Yeah, let's move on. Anonymous Female Sacramento. Back when my oldest was a newborn, my husband and I dragged ourselves out of bed after a long night of baby feedings and realized our cars registration was about to expire. We race to the car, got in, then started driving a few blocks so that we could put air in the tire and then we would take it to be smagled. As soon as we parked at the gas station, we realized we left our baby asleep in his crib. Sure, it was only for a few minutes, but OMG, I felt like the worst parent of all time. We rushed right back and of course he was fined, snoozing away in his little swaddle. Sleep deprivation is a hell of a thing. She had to get that off for chest. She felt bad. I have a story of what you do. I do I do when I was seven years old. Okay, my God, I can't wait to hear this. So, so freaking dramatic. I was seven years old. I was downstairs in the basement. Oh, I know this. Yeah, watching TV, playing computer games. At the time. Our computer is downstairs. My Dad's a pastor and there was this community event at the church. So my mom left first and then my dad was going to meet her at the church later. I was downstairs again and AJ stayed at my house before. My parents like every single door, like they locked the door to the basement, they locked the doors to outside, they locked the inside door from the garage, everything, every single door, every room and just to be clear, sits like some creepy basements of finished basement, three bedrooms, of pure living room, kitchen, like there's no new to lock the door. They locked the door with like a bar overdoors you can't and a chain. And when he moved into his own apartment, when we first started dating, his dad sent home. They sent the chain and lock, Ye, chain and lock in the mail, like they're very securities, very important for them. So I'm in the basement and I'm still playing my games. That the time. I'm like HMM, I'm still down here and they haven't come and got me. Okay, cool. So I keep playing my game. Hours passed by and then I go upstairs in the doors close, which is not uncommon for the door to be closed by try to get out and I can't get out. I'm like, Oh my God, what do I do? What do I do? I start freaking out. I'm crying. I'm seven years old. Guy's probably low key wanted. You probably wanted like a peanut butter and Jelly. You probably one of the snack. No, I hate, I hate peanut butter and Jelly, but I was I was I was terrified. There's a Bible verse right above, like on the stairwells. I start like reading that over and over again and I'm like God, please save me. I go downstairs. Keep in mind there's a phone downstairs. Instead of calling my parents, because I did have their cell phone numbers, calling my parents, I call one. I didn't call the church, I didn't call my parents. A call one one. Y'All, the Fire Department came. They broke two of our living room windows. They could get inside. Shit. Then they come inside, they get me from the basement and they're like Danie apple juice. I'm like, y'all, take some apple jeese. My parents left me that my dad or a mom thought that my dad was going to bring me my dad thought. My mom say could have gotten in real trouble. They didn't know I was downstairs. It caused the biggest commotion and they were like, why didn't you just call us? I was like, I was scared. I was. I was terrified. So I thought now we come with the because your dad takes you to the emergency room when you're like that. See. So, I mean, that's just this is how you were raised, I was raised. So the cops came and they were very nice, very friendly. Dramatics, dramatic AF and that's where he actually first, for the first time in his life, had a crush on a man. It's a firefight. That is not you know, my first press was Mario. OPE, can I can have more understanding for your situation? You were seven years old. Your parent doesn't need to put you in the car seat and lock you in, but the other person, I mean if the baby's small enough to be sleeping in a crib, and that means you should have liked put them in their car seats. Yeah, really I got a whole process. Yeah, you get down to the gas...

...station. There was no Google Gaga happening. Yeah, you didn't look in the reverse Mara to see the reflection of yeah, right, and there's two of them, like not, one of that, one of Lison. I get sleep deprivation and I it's a major thing, and I was talking about this with Lala. Can't about how having help is a major thing, you know, especially for new mothers. I think at the first few months you have so many hormones that are just out of wack and you just need to get your shit all the way together because your mind is kind of all over the place because, yeah, adjusting to not being pregnant. You know what you did for ten months. So Damn. Listen. That's crazy, though. The MacAllister MC allister's left the whole last kid at their house and flew to Paris at home alone, and then they did it again in New York City, right, so he was a grown kid. They left him twice a year. That just realized I have my own home and I did a live action version of home alone. Wait, so what? Here's what happened. Okay, this is amazing. I'm actually I've heard the story before. Runn never process at this way. We instead of pulling a Kevin McAlister and like being creative and like creating looks with like you literally freaked out and called the Fire Department. If he had freaked out and just called the Fire Department, that movie would have been over before it started. Yeah, right, yeah, I wouldn't probably done the same as Kevin, though I would have done sure exact thing. I would have probably same. Yeah, Oh, yeah, because I get I have fun. Like Anita just told me she just like passed out on her sister's house on the couch and she heard noises and she was like creeping under the blankets. I would have jumped up, I would have grabbed one of my machettes and I would have gone looking for it. Are you serious? For Twenty minutes I didn't breathe and I just this is had just happened last night, and I'd laid there and I'm like, I'm not going to move because they're going to see me. This is really air. And then finally, like twenty minutes later, I jumped up and ran to my sister's real and then I slept in her bad with you to wed. You're the one who freezes and panic. I'm the one who's been waiting my entire life for like a moment to save everybody's lying. Yeah, I would probably going to say I would have called I one one door. Thank you, thank you, thanks for making me feel better. Okay, anonymous female Sacramento. All these females? Okay, back when my oldest was a newborn, my husband, Oh wow, I just definitely just right that. So we have one more psychotic sound familiar. Okay, anonymous. Australia. We Love Australia. Okay, so I've never dropped my son, but I hit his head on the car. I hit his head on the car getting him into his car seat pretty much every time until he was old enough to climb in. Being a parent is something I've always wanted to have honestly, never regretted, even now that I'm a single parent and it's just me, my small person and our dog. The only thing I suggested those thinking about becoming parents is to be actively working through your own trauma, if you're not already, and speak to adults who were raising your child situation or those with experience. I adoptees ffy what's that? WHAT'S FFY? F? Why? What's let me people, anybody know why? F? What for? I don't know. FY is, HMM, surrogate donor, mentally ill parents, single parents, same sex parents, disable parents, etcetera. All the other stuff will fall into place once you can parent from Oh, once you can parent from a healed and informed place, as little like you were saying, yeah, yeah, behole, that's what's up. Well, listen, wow, I feel like we don't need to cover that one. I know that's just by sically, you are disgusted parenting advice and gg already gave us some gems, and basically their secret was that they hit the the child film. Okay, every single time that they got in the car. We haven't talked about that a little bit. Have you dropped your kid? Have you bunked his head up against the wall? Just a couple days ago I was coming through the window from outside and I was coming inside from the backyard and the window isn awfully open and I try to be slid and I felt a little like this, and then and then I hear Oh, and he's like rubbing the back of his head and he's looking at me like I'm supposed to called him for that and I was like, what what happened? Oh my God, what's wrong? What happened? What happened? Bad? Yeah, no, but then I rubbed his head and I'm like it's okay, baby or bad, bad, or body, bad or money, nothing to do with that. When our art, when our listening, I say son, our son, and drop Kingston. Tell you did. You saw? I DROPP him a couple times when he was a puppy, okay, and also when you have a puppy and just a dog in general. He's not even a year old. While around a lot one, not even that, they always want to be right under your feet. And I've stepped on that dog. I've kicked him in the face, like accidentally, and he always comes back. And what do you call it? Our dog, and by face like walking. I don't like haul off and boot him like a soccer ball. I'm the same, I clarify. Yeah, and Poor Little Guy, I stepped on his one time. Oh my God gg I will tell you this, and you did. I was at so I used to do some event planning as well. Back in the day, I was more like I was more the guy who was in charge of the staff. Afterwards, my partner and I and a friend of ours had a company we did for...

...a while and we would do like bunch of gay guys basically hire us to do really extravagant like dinner parties on like a Tuesday night randomly, with like a hundred thousand dollar budget, like okay, great, wow, and I was in charge of the staff usually. And we had this one friend is very, very, very, very very wealthy. He actually owns a block of downtown Dateon Ohio, speaking of our of our home right, guys loaded, and he would hire us for fun and he had this little teeny dog that was like this big, that was maybe blee, maybe like three pounds, like it was the tiniest thing in the world and it was so ugly, always, always under my feet, and I stepped on him one time. No To brand it. You can. You can kill a dog like that way, stepping on them. I'm six five, two hundred pounds, and that thing yelped so loud I was so terrified because this dog probably cost thousands of dollars. We never got hired for a GIG again. Broke something. You broke something of that dog. Wi type of dog was a type of Reed. It looks. It looked to me like a I don't know what it was, but it looked like a Pomeranian, but so slight, those little little like raps on St but way smaller. Yeah, dog, it's just fluffy team cop for you, because those should be like against some sort of law, something that they can't create something so small. mean the hey live for a couple years and they die of some sort. That have so many issues and a breeding and make. Yeah, that's just cool. So I just helped speed up the prop you dead. Oh my God, that's awful, but it's yeah, we're going to take a quick break, but when we come back, wait until like recently, like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, he's on the grounds, on the floor right now. I'm sorry the wait. Wait, we've been we've been dishing on everybody else's mess. I realise the secrets giving some motherly advice, gg thing you for that and just straight up judging some of our confessions today, but it is now time for the two of you. Who's going, or do you both have one for us? I, okay, let's say I do, but mind, it's not. I know what Hers Okay, Tell You why I think we should. Okay, number one, it's not so piss on a parent, because I'm Adam care. Just want to really a mess, and neither we're going to start to be a secret. Could be something you haven't really told a lot of people. It can be whatever it needs to be. It could be a funny story, but now let's start Anita shout with. I need it. It's time to your mess. Okay, for I just say it. Yeah, she's sweating. I just say it. Embarrassing, but I don't free zone. I have secrets. What I can't share them because they're not my secrets, or you know what I mean. So this is like, I don't really wow, you're really good at this show. I have I have I've never masturbated. Wait until like recently, like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, he's on the ground. He's on the floor right now. I mean, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, but wait, wait, until recently. Oh my God, wait a few minute. I'm so sorry. This is an entire podcast episode. Oh my God, I'm sure right now tools were gonna have the Duraction Pot. What you had to do? You have own I like. It was dirty, it was bad, it was wrong in me, like my GRANDPA. My spirits are all watching over me, are watching it. I just I'd never did it because I feel like it's a bad thing. So I'da so. Yeah, you say recently, though, like that, D or. Is this why you? Is this why you passed out last night for twenty minutes? That's why she heard voices? Oh my God, yeah, wait, I'm okay, I'm so, I'm so fascinated by waite's answer. Wait, how recent are we talking? I'm so scared to know right now, I feel like this is incest. Or I mean, I'm yeah, it's it's just like I'm going to say, within the last couple months. Oh, I am so shock. Did it happen more with it a one night stand with the air, with yourself, or how are you? Were you any good? You Go back? Not Bad? Yeah, no, this is a this is this is I can't believe. I okay. Now. I'm curious, though, and because this is serious, because is actually very serious. So you talked earlier about sort of like the family pressure, the cultural pressure. Yeah, that's also why you didn't feel like this is the thing you could do as a something you've ever talked was just going to say I do hundred percent think this is a parenting yeah station, because how it needs. Have you talked about parents need to talk.

I got scared, you know, when I was like I'm having a boy, like the how of what do I do when he starts masturbating? You know what I mean, because I don't know what to do with it. Dick, I don't know what I'm supposed to do with it. I don't know what I'm supposed to provide for it. I mean, I know what I provide, but not for my son right. It's just I think it's rueing thing. You never diduys your mom dot. Well, obviously not your dad. We can know. We talked about like sex and stuff and my mom did you look okay? Your sister said your sister has a kid already. Have you, your sister, ever talked about this before, about the home, like having sex, masturbating, masturbating? Yeah, it's so weird. I talked to my family about everything and I'm very open and I'm like to call me like kind of like the lat what is that up? Not Pervert, they're not a lot. That's a really od word. And stared and far see it's it's I'm just open and I'm an open book. And if, like, I've dated a guy and I didn't like him because his penis was like not the right size or whatever, I would talk to my I would tell my mom, like I was just wearing, but then about the whole like masturbating and stuff. If my sister's like they're not as close as we are, like we just don't talk about you have such good girlfriendly of me what we talked I don't. I just say it's never I've talked to them about sex. Well, listen, it's whole that you did know, DD, that's that's what. Well, but also, let's just backtrack a little bit, dge, she also didn't know how to say your last name earlier on. This is this is we gotta talk. We got here's what I'll say. Here's I'll say, because I told you all that my dad's a pastor and then my mom's re super religious family too. My whole family's very religious and when we would go to church conferences, they're would be like youth books that you would get, and I remember as a teenager, because I couldn't really talk to my parents about pubity, I didn't feel comfortable and I had sex that in school but there, you know, just scratched the surface and they get straight, right, right, sex. That's all they talked about. I was very curious about masturbation and in this religious, you know, Bible Guide to puberty, it said that masturbation was wrong, you should not ever do it, and I was terrified. And then when I finally did say okay, I tried it one time, I was like, feels good. So I guess I'm going to hell, but I mean this feels good. Without getting to graphic, I was going to town and remember just just the circle it all back. There was one time vision in my mind. There was one time that, because I you know how you are, your horned up teenager, it was back to back to back. My I can't believe talk about this in the podcast. My penis was was a little swollen and I had to go to my dad and say, Dada, concerned, and we went to the emergency room in penis and the doctor says, have you been masturbating? I said yeah, he's like, okay, where you just been going too much everything. Most embarrassing thing I've ever experienced in my life. So, Anita, you actually should be grateful. I mean you probably have swollen the vagina, but where you were a child, you got some catching up to do and you know, got a lot of work ahead of you. Yes, yes, Oh, well, that's incredible and also, I love you. Okay, I don't think. I don't follow that. Now we're gonna have to know. I should have opened that up, because, y'all, oh gg, this is that? Now she's your best friend. You have a whole sins. You have. No, no, no, I mean obviously we're gonna have to talk about this. Oh, genuinely GG, about this. She'd I'll be listening to the episode GG, the Rider monologs, and I'm gonna have her com performed, because it was a play. The play was beautiful, by the way. I mean, that wasn't a play, it was like a what was it? Yeah, yeah, it was a one, one woman plate source situation. Right. But also, this, honey, this is not this is not like an episode. This is like a three, four part series on genuinely gg. You got so much to cover her. I need a congrats, my I'm happy for you. Thank you very have and I love that, and now I love that you shared that with us. Self love is important and always yes, it is, and we also say we're like judgment free zone and roll like he's like on the floor. It's pretty crazy. I think that I have very crazy because, I guess for multiple reasons, and it and it's all reasons being so stupid. But yes, God, we did it last night and had a blash. All Right, okay, so I don't listen, ggi. I don't know how you're going to top that one. I don't you think I have anything to top that. You could listen. You can go in a completely different direction, it doesn't matter. Just happy, be better or worse, a Dain, safe space, judge, Egi, we might laugh or shock. Gg Yeah, it's time for you to well confess your mess, Lord Jesus. Okay, oh my Gosh, oh my gosh, I really can't follow that you guys, but I'm going to give it a shot. This is something that has been bothering me since I got pregnant, so it's been a while and I have never said this. Wow, wait, okay, I get asked all the time about did you want to have a boy? Did you want have a girl? What did you you know was this, you know the thing and I was. It's interesting because in my mind, when I decided I'm going to do IVF and have, you know, a child by myself, no...

...man, you know, or significant other, I figured it would just be easier for me to just have a girl because I was afraid again, like I said, I don't know what to tell a boy when he's going to puberty or how to teach him how to, you know, be a gentleman and be kind and you know what the battles are for men. I don't know what those things are. So I freaked out and I was like, you know, okay, well, I'm going to just pick a female umbryo. When I got the news my fertility doctor, he called me and he's reading off the scores, because you wait a ten days and then they test the embryos. They can do gender and also they do like a two hundred and fifty panel of genetic diseases and all those types of stuff. So you get all the results together right. So He's reading off the panel. Listen, mind you, for months now, while I'm doing IVF, I'm picking girls names, I'm doing all this stuff, the doctor calls and says serial number, Blah Blah, blah, perfect score, Male, serial number that, blah, blah, blah, perfect score mail. He goes down the list and I remember when he've called me. He said five perfect scored embryos. So He's at I'm at number three, I'm starting to get a little nauseous, and number four, I could feel the oxygen leaving my brain. And he gets to five and he says male. All five, all five perfect scores were male. And I hung up the phone. And now I have so many hormones pumping through my body from the IVF and now I'm, you know, getting ready to put the embryo in me. So those are extra hormones getting me ready for it. And it was as if my world collapsed. Everything that I had mentally prepared for just ended right there and I was like wait, wait, wait, it's fine, I could just do the process again. You know, I'll do it again, because male sperm are, it's a medical thing. There are slower than female sperm, so getting males are usually harder. A lot of couples go through the process a few times just to get really good, healthy male embryos because it sometimes they want to have males boys. I'm sorry, but I get all these. So I'm like, Oh my God, though, my dad comes over, my mom comes over, I'm crying my Daddy. My Dad's like no, this is good because you're by yourself and you know he will grow up and he'll take care of you. He goes. I'm happy if it's a boy and I'm gonna go here. You're right, but what do I do? Any stars, master baby laughing his hearically. He's like you'll figure it out. He's got a, you know, boy cousin and he's you know, you're gonna have to find some good male role models around. He definitely shouldn't come to AUNTIANITA. He is gonna be like no, no, no, don't you touch that thing. I'm gonna be like, baby, this is the best look, here you go here, the best clean x and the tip. I'm gonna I'm going to get him ready for it. But now you know what it was. It was a big way our actually really relieved. I've never said it because I felt so guilty like saying that I wanted a girl. We know, it's funny because you went from not even like, okay, I'm just going to have a I'll just I'll have a boy it's meant to be. You're like, I'm gonna go through the whole process again. Really, God, I would all the whole thing again and then really didn't want to think this was meant to because there's a reason my perfect embryos out of you know, I had twenty one eggs. We had twelve amazing embryos and five of them were perfect. They're all male. I'm just gonna go with that. I'm gonna say, you know what, this is something I'm supposed to have. Yeah, that's not messy at all. Bad luck of that, and I love that you know. So, first of all, again, I will be listening to you. We both be listening to the episode when you talk about this in detail. Me To secret on your podcasting really dg, but I think I want to know before we let you go. So your confession is one one that you should dive into a little more for show a lot more. A lot more women can relate to that. Then probably have set it out loud and literally. I know there are going to be women all over the world who hear this podcast and caught. Hopefully we have listeners all over the world. I know a big and Tanzania. I know that Australia, Canada, we did every baby. There will be women who hear that and they're going to say, wow, I felt that for so long but I couldn't put words to it. or You just did it so beautifully, and I that's what I love about the show, because sometimes confessions are silly, sometimes they're like and I don't think the either one of your confessions are bigger or smaller or wilder or lust than the other. They're just very different. And you too, I mean your Besti's, and you didn't share these things with each other and it just means the world. I'm genuinely just honored by both of you right now because to share those things on our podcast is just so beautiful and I just want to thank you. Yeah, and that kind of leaves it. I was going to say so, you know, since you are on a reality show, and you do just because the nature of the show and any reality show, confess...

...your mess as. You now have a child and you have clearly evolved in you know, life changes. We just saw recently centia Bailey's leaving real house lives Atlanta, one of my favorite shows. Do you think there were ever become a point where you will and you don't have to answer for your want. But do you think there were ever become a point where you feel like I've gotten what I need to get from this and your you walk away, or do you still feel like you're in love with the the platform and what you get from from being on the show? Saying that I'm in love with the platform would be an understatement. I'm more than in love with it, I'm obsessed with it. I respect it. I've worked hard, really really hard for the last eleven years, you know, to do this and knowing that I was a part of the original cast members that started the first show about Persians on an American network, I don't ever want to be not a part of it. I know that that day will eventually come, God willing, this show will go on and on and we will want to see those younger generation people representing for what we, you know, did ten years ago. But I hope that I can, you know, give the good fight and keep with this for as long as possible and as long as my life is as open and honest as it has been, which makes it entertaining as hell, or my audience. You know, I would love to be a part of it. I would love for Eli to grow up when day and just be like the future shots. So, yeah, Hey, listens forever. The KARDASHIANS did. I remember. I remember early on the Kardashians run, seeing Kylie and Kendall and being like, oh, they'll never be old enough for that. I see what they're like as women, and now they run the world. Yeah, run, the world runs. Really, what's a really honest answer? That's really interesting. You say eleven years Cynthia Bailey, literally loving year later, I left, left real house, lives Atlanta and and you never know. You know for her she got married to Mike Hill and things changed for her and she's walking away and who knows if she's walking away or Bravo says were just taken a break. You know how it goes, right, but gus, but for you to be a mother and to say I'm actually in love with the process, because oftentimes Hollywood, this industry, just gets a really bad rap across the board. Yeah, and there are some really bad things about this industry, as there are with every industry, but to be in love with the process and to and also just to watch you grow over the seasons. Yeah, there were definitely seasons where I'm like, I can't fucking stand gg she's but but it's been so beautiful to watch. I want to see your characters. I'm your character, but the character of who you are like as a person, is a human being, evolved over these years and to see you as a mother now, and I will say this, you know, having us on your podcast when we were nobodies and had no you know, we recorded what two or three episodes? Yeah, and you said Yeah, bring them on, and then agreeing to come on our podcast. Yeah, that's a big deal, like you're like you're legit and this means a lot to us and we just wish both nothing but the best. Made very uncomfortable because I thought it was a big job that I'm going to be on your podcast show. I look at every second of this as a blessing. I'm so grateful for it. In those people who goes to their head, I feel like they don't deserve it, and there are a lot of people out there amongst us that I see you're just undeserving, because this is a once in a lifetime opportunity that are very small fraction of this world will ever get taught. You know experience. So, man, I'm fucking holding on world tight. Hey man out that okay. The four of us need to like get together for in the real world. She's gonna say next to go for your widing such she could plan it. Ladies, you're fantastic. We'll get together in the real world very soon. GG. In need of Y'all, I think. Bye, Oh my God, more poor of China. Thanks for listening to genuinely gig download new episodes every week and, if you haven't already, subscribe and be sure to leave us a rating and review and, while you're at it, check out some of the other great shows available on Straw hunt media.

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