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Don't Call Him My Boyfriend

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Straw media. Hey guys, welcome to another episode of genuinely Gege. I'm sitting with my beautiful friend Anita, that I think just came back from six fags magic mouth with that spray painted shirt. What is your shirt say today? Anita says Anita, go Harry events. I need to go Harry Events, which is your company name. Yeah, and an age on the back. I had it. Had this. Are you going to show people? Okay, she's gonna show everybody that it says age on the back of her shirt. Age. You Forgot The D. speaking a d I recently got some d need after like fucking three and a half years, fucking years me, I got some d. So the COBWEBS ARE gonna shirt. I took the D right off your shoukod day. They just I own it. I am I am sort of seeing talking to someone. Amazing. It's amazing. I'm so happy. It's very weird. I'm getting my hold on HMM. Yeah, I can tell us. You neither spoke a lot to talk about this and because you're out of your element. Way, yeah, I'm yeah. So it's amazing. I'm you don't want it, I'm gonna take some just because I feel like this is amazing news. We're going to sound raising because finally, like the seal has been broken. Kind of. Oh girl, no, I can't send it. I closed. Was cobwebs. It was rested. We there was all sorts of W D forty. We didn't use lube. We need a wd forty. It was rested. Bitch. Okay, okay, that was like, HMM, yeah, nerve racking, very nerve racking. But it's also very interesting because the lights on. It's girl, ain't nobody got time to fix somebody the first time with lights on?...

Come on now, girl, what the fuck? I don't want to see shit. I don't want to see myself pop my cherry for the second time. Okay, I don't want to see that happen. Puff off, pass. Come on, I'm getting anxiety. Suck your teeth. Know you let it all out. You cheated that one. You gotta love do you'd suck. I got it. You didn't hit it. You didn't even hit it. What are you coughing for? Take an actual hit. Suck your teeth, suck noe. Let how your nose by sin or something. Oh my God, I'm an Otter and Oh lady gentleman, Anita has entered the room. Who We you? Go ahead, I'm good. Okay, you ready to talk about Dick? Yeah, okay, let's do it. Oh my God. Okay. So, I'm so sorry, guys, no, drink some water. It's okay, coffee. I don't drink water. HMM, yeah, okay, hmmm, we're good. I went up the nose like in a weird way. No, it, you saw it happened. It came out in a weird, really weird way. We're like a raging bull, like, HMM, yeah, I was like, oh, that like, you know the cartoons? Oh, yeah, I like them. Yeah, okay, I'm ready. That's kind of what I look like a second ago, but it's okay, okay, God, Oh my God, I can't stop. I can't okay, I don't I don't even know where I was anymore. I feel like nothing matters in the world. After Anita smokes weed. I just lose all focus on because you're just so entertaining, and I do too. You know her from Shaws of sunset. You know...

...she doesn't hold back. I'm tired of harding guys. I traumatize. I literally sent the kid into some trauma that you know. I shouldn't have done that. This is genuinely gg what we were talking about. Okay, so we're talking about this guy that I just met. Yeah, I met him through RESA. I'm just going to ask you. How did you meet him? I've I don't through as I he's a friend of rous as in the they like, you know, very health driven, you know body all that stop. Very good guy, very sweet guy. I've been very open, okay, from jump about what it is that I'm interested in right now. Like how, how open have you been with him? Like I'm assuming I didn't. I didn't like just peel to seal a little bit. I pop the whole can open. I am like, this is what I'm about. I've heard a lot of men in my past because I wasn't understanding who I am exactly. I feel like right now I'm identifying with this polyamory stuff. I don't know what it means. So I did talk about it right at the beginning. Girl, I brought it up right out and it was a very long conversation that we had. I think he's very understanding for it, so we'll see. So he's there's never my first time in his first time. He's never been in this situation. He enjoys what I've explained to him about it. Okay, you never know. Until the other person brings another partner and in front of them, you never know how that's going to pure shot heart. It might happen to me, might happen to him. This is my first time, so I don't know and he doesn't know. So it's like, I'm I didn't we have that talk, like what are our boundaries? What are the rules like if you meet someone else, when do you tell you each other? Like which point? Yeah, you know it's...

...going to be shady if you just roll up with a girlfriend to a party that you know I'm going to be at and you never gave me a warning that you're dating someone you know, then all of a sudden you're you know, just it's is it going to hurt me if you tell me you met someone you like and you want to stop the relationship? Sure, but that's the rules. Okay, and because my logic is more significant than my emotion, you know, I know I can play by those rules. I just hope that he can't as well. But he but he did say that he's open to it if it would so he didn't run away. He's like, totally cool. That happens. It happens, and he's willing to it seems like it. I don't know, because it's like feel like he's not going to bring anyone. Here's the thing. It's all going to be you. He's never thought about this world before. Okay, he's only considering this now because I want this for myself. So He's met me, he likes me, and now I'm saying this is what I like, though. Okay, is he coming on to the ride because he doesn't genuinely want to be in anything exclusive and he genuinely just wants to try this because he doesn't want that? Or is it like Oh, will wait? That struck a chord for me too. Maybe that's something I identify with. Okay, you know, I don't know and I don't want to judge it, but it's gonna be fucking nerve racking to find out. You know, no, just if it's supposed to happen, it'll happen naturally. You'll be okay and then you'll like what what you mean? Like that it happened naturally, like like if you guys, if you guys are working out, you're grade, you guys are dating, and hopefully he's gonna be perfect and every way and stimulate you intellectually, sexually, emotionally, own whatever else do you want? Your polymory life? Maybe he'll go that. You don't. You won't even be looking for anyone else and he could just be that person. Okay, but see, this is where we go back to this conversation. This is where I feel...

...like we were. We get stuck between Anita and I, actually, majority of my girlfriends and I. This is where we get stuck. I feel like I don't enjoy being with one person. Okay, so for me that's equivalent to me telling you, when you fall in love with a guy, I think you should have multiple men go falling not with someone else, and you're like, I don't think you should just be. It's like the same thing, because you're like, I'm not capable of that. Yeah, you know, and I feel like I'm not capable of the one one. I'M gonna keepe. I just don't think I'm designed that way. HMM, I don't know, though. I don't know, I've never tried it. Well, this is okay, just but to answer your question. I think you just your honest path and if you do meet someone else, since then someone triges your attention, whatever, then that's the time when you feel like it's not like you're surprising this new guy. Right, right, he's no surprises. He's not talk with you whatever. So it's not going to be like sonly, like, oh, hey, miss him when you want to try this out. Right. So you've told him he had the choice of seeing. I don't want to be with you. I can't do that. I just want to be the one person. Yeah, he ended up staying for now. He's you know, and you're accepting him to be with you. And when that person comes, then you bring it up and you see what he if you can handle it or not. Let me ask you a question. Can I ask you something? Maybe I'M gonna ask guyless. Gonna Change my laugh. Man, why do you have to change her laugh? Horrible, okay, go on. What says that? I do. Laughter is the music to the soul, except one guy. Oh my God, I'll never forget this situation. I was out, Oh my God, Ryan seaquest had invited all of us, all of us Shaws, out to Ah my God, a dinner we had finish this season. It was all our producers, Ryan seacrest, all the cast, everyone who was sitting there, and we were at Chateau Marmat and we had the whole Patti section and to the...

...corner of the whole patio section was this small table. It was a man and two women. Excuse me, a man and two women, and he had this most obnoxious laugh, obnoxious louth like you think he was seizing, like it was. It was horrible, and he would like bang on the table, you know those go ahead, oh, I want to see there, listen. So I'm like why, what? Who is this guy? Like, it's fuck. Everyone was like turning around, staring at on like what the fuck, like he wanted to be heard. And you can tell he was older guy and he had like a young hot chick with them. So it was like he was trying to floss or something. Right now, mind you, this was like seven, eight years ago. I had enough drinks in me that I'm like fuck it, I'm going to just go put an end to this because this is just getting to be too much. It's just too much. None of us can like we can't hear over his lap. It was that bad, like it was a good it's like it was bad right. So I put this joint down soup. So I go over to the table and I been over and I am quietly over there and I'm like hi, I said, are you guys enjoying your evening? And, you know, kind of confused and he goes yeah, and I was like that's so good, because we're trying to as well, but we can't seem to over your very loud sounds. I said, is it cool to just kind of quiet it down a little bit? Listen to this, listen to this. Not even five minutes later, the waiter, the host, that our waiter, comes to the table, brings a bill and says your bill has been taken care of and you've all been asked to leave. Apparently he is the gem of Chateau. My mom see out of it. Okay, and not only where we asked to leave, I have been banned from Chateau Mama. I went back there. I was sitting down for dinner with Yas...

...man, I think it was, at her a couple of her friends and they came to my table and escorted me out the off the probably has you like. So I will never think someone's laughter is horrible. So go ahead and laughing like laughter. Okay. So, compared to that, it was just you and you stand from Chateau. I am banned from Chateau Mamma, but if anyone wants to place a dare on me, I love a good dare and I would love to go back there. I will film myself sitting there until I get kicked out. If I don't. Wants a Daremy I dare you. I'm gonna have Miami. I'm going to have my forty three birthday. They're coming up fun. Oh my other is amazing. Okay. So anyways, so back to that, to your laughter. It was back to okay, let's go back. No, No, who cares about the let's talk about you have a like. Why do you not? Don't even know. They don't say that. We're not saying you work. Don't say the words. That's a good question, because he asked me that. He goes what do I refer to you as my friend? Wait, when I said I am not your friend, sweetheart, can I just yeah, he already asked you that. Yes, like from John we I'm telling you, a very climb out. It's only been like a week or ty? No, it's been more than one week. It's been like ten days. So in ten days he's already know it's been like. It's been like to two weeks, three weeks. What has been like? Three? Two, three weeks? Three, girl, I don't know. I don't know, but all I know is that like I think it's too soon. No, I will. You know what, here's my issue with my relationships in my past. It goes from I just met them to the next day it's a fullblown relationship and then in three four months, I tossed them out right because it goes so deep so fast and they're usually they fall in level to me because I'm so disconnected. Yeah, and then I'm like, okay, stops, I was up, I can't take it anymore. Okay, done. This one was different from the beginning. I had that conversation with him. Okay, I was as open as I can possibly possibly be. I mean literally,...

...like have you seen gray's anatomy? Imagine a surgical scene in that. That's how open I was, like open, like all out. I'm like fuck it, because I'm tired of hurting guys. I traumatized by what happened with with my last relationship, which was my ex husband, and because I fucking I literally sent the kid into some trauma that. You know, I shouldn't have done that. I should have been not so selfish, and now I don't want to be selfish anymore. Okay, you know. So I I think it's great that you do. You have that instant connection with him, that you guys can both open up and he's cool with that and he do. You think it's cool? That's what I wanted to ask you before you started laughing like Ah, you know, and I'm kidding. I wanted to ask you that because I think it was Sarah, one of my best friends. Are Best Friends Sarah. She was like, you know, you relax, you don't have to say so much. I'm like no, but I feel like I actually need to. I felt like I needed to get that off my chest right from the beginning. But what do you think, because you can start are very different, but you know me a lot longer. So what do you think about what I did? As far as what kind of out let's all have air, I think it's some weador's deinly the we what is this new ee's could weed. I forget that. My God, I told you what it's Hook. We are gonna fucking my water out right now. Did you forget? I can't function with weed. We're going to take a quick break, but when we come back, I'm wearing this gorgeous diamond tennis netflace. It wo by you on the first day that I got up, and I have them. Bought all those things for me on the first date. Literally. I was asking you if you thought, based on knowing me, my history and all that, if you thought what I...

...did was too premature, or did I go about it the right way? How? What do you think? Okay, I think that, and I'm just talking about you, not in general. Okay, just means I think it was really good you did it, because obviously none of the paths have worked now correct. So this could be the this could be it. This could be what you you know, a tool like I my stay. It's gonna work with this guy, but like for the say, after him, next person, you just keep staying open. Yeah, and and I think, I think for sure it's it was a good call. Yeah, Hi Fi, yeah, for good we thank you. I didn't think you were going to say that, because I thought you would be like maybe you need to ease them into it, maybe like after a couple days. I thought you would say something like that. That's interesting. On this one, I think that's good. I think, HMM, because you're I mean, well, you'd again, it's not. You're not. I mean, no one's so young these days that the you need just want to drag it out. Yeah, so just I think it's just better. Yeah, you're going to be more into it, because then you know that he's going to kind of back off and he's kind of open to it. Right. I feel like if you don't the off, yeah, you're going to be classed off and like you're not going to because, yeah, so I think it's actually I actually agree with what you just said so much, because I feel like usually those things are what throw me off from the relationship, is when they don't understand boundaries and of course they don't wear a boyfriend, girl from relationship, and then they feel like they're in love and they need to like always be with me and cuddle me. And I think now that I've set those boundaries, like I don't like to do that, I don't like to do this. I don't you know, maybe I'll get there. Yeah, but that's not typically what I'm used to. Like. Hopefully I'll get you know, I left it like that. I don't want it to be like a closed door because, like you said, who knows, maybe he respects this life of mine so much that it works. Maybe it works for him to to have this type of situation for his life right now. Yeah, you know,...

...and that's fine, because I'm a very, you know, everything's temporary, type of person as well when it comes to my intimate relationships. So yeah, you know, it's like in and out honey, as long as it's animal style, like it are. I guess that's what happened with you guys. Then I'm happy. I can't wait till you meet him. Now, I said, I get nothing. Okay, I I'm excited. I was, I was taking it to it like the whole thing. Now I want to meet him. I'm excited. I'm excited for you to meet him. It's very interesting that I met him do res A, you know, but since resume I even became so much closer. I feel like so many of our friends have intertwined. We just kind of hang out. It's more now. That's good. And I also feel like with Resa, he has a good his good intuition and yeah, about people and stuff. Res I like I've had a lot of him. I Adam is like a big thing too. I feel like Adam. It's hard on people. He's the biggest credic. Okay, and Adam loves him. So yeah, well, I'm excited Urus. But yeah, we'll see this. And he's cool. He know. I mean with Elijah and he it's just seemed like he wants to have kids. And Yeah, I need you morey open with that. And you're like, I'm done with nothing. You're done with kids. But did you tell me you're kind of may be done with kids? There is something I did say, but it was probably not related. It's a kid, so much per se, per se. I did have to buy it to make a child, though, but I did say luckily, I am now come doumpsters. So okay, you know, okay, it was one of those conversations. But he is obsessed with children. He's obsessed with wanting to meet Eli he he just adores the photos. He just seems like he can't wait to have his own. Okay, okay, and I'm hoping it works...

...out for him one day, okay, but, yeah, why do you think you're going to have a meet like I want to meet it for all my God, girl, he has a pass through me before he can meet Elishah. How's that? Hundred percent? I has to pass through all of you guys at least a hundred times before he meets my son. That's a big deal. But, like you know, especially because men are so temporary in my life. Yeah, I just want to make sure if he is in my life, he'll continue to be a friend of mine even when we're not, you know, and Tom it anymore. Like you see, all my ex'es are my best friends in my life right now. So, like, if Dennis were to come around, I would trust. You know, Dennis has seen Elijah since day one. You know what I'm saying, because I know the Dennis is going to be there for the rest of my life. But I don't know this guy enough. Like you said, it's just been like two months. Yeah, I mean two weeks, two days, ten days, couple days. It's it's just, it's it is. It's great. Yeah, I mean, I wish I could share more, but unfortunate, I know I'm not going to pry too much. I want you, you know, let me know what I need to know. I'm snippets, I give snippets. I'll let you ask, okay, I'll let you be the voice of the people and I'll let you ask me three questions, but I have, I have the opportunity to decline to answer just for the sake of privacy. So feel free to ask me three questions. Three questions. Uh Huh, Uh Huh. Okay, I'm so scared. I know why myself up for this joint I don't even I'm scared. You're scared to ask me. I'm scared. Don't know. I'm more scared because I don't because I can't think of anything right now. Okay, how one through ten? How good was he in bad? Oh my God, very difficult question to answer, mostly because my mom listens to this podcast. She does. Fuck. Okay, well, and a lot of my relatives, and so...

I mean, wait time, it's here's the thing. It was my first time in like a long time. Yeah, so at the end of the day I was like Madonna, like full on, like a virgin. Okay, okay, Oh, it was. It was. It was like the prerequisite to SAS okay, you know, and it was just, let's just say this, he is the most perfect gentleman, the most sexiest, perfect gentleman. Just great. It was great. So is he was. It was more about him wanting to pleasure you, when it was more about you pass. Okay, a count as another one, because like hout does a second nation. That was a great question. I would have asked the same thing but passed. Oh Shit, look, you're making me blush. I got it's great for my contour, big balls. Right now, I need to be I need to go hire your van sculls like a serious question. Oh, okay, damn it, all right, okay, well, I meet two more than this. Is this? No, you gotta Pass. This is this was your question. Question. Okay, what about him? Has Drawn you? Because you don't give anyone a chance. You don't like people. Right, why him? What was? Why? Wow, what a good one. Step back, Oprah, Winfrey, we have Anita, go hih ovents, yeah, wwcom, and need to go Harry evincecom. Great, did you say right? Yeah, don't. Yeah, it's all right, Oprah. Let me see. That's a very good question. I know, I wasn't really are. That was deep. Yeah, and I don't want to pass it. I did my already. I got one, my one pass. I'm not going to pay. Only at one past I think, yeah, I helped you make that. Oh Shit, the last back and has you rather together. All Right, Um, what about him? All right, when I first met him, here's the thing. Okay, I'm wearing this gorgeous diamond and his necklace. If you bought that for...

...you on the first day that I girt this, you have a girl plan. I happened? It is not. She alone bought all those things for me on the first date, literally. So we were jewelry shopping with Russa I, I was jewelry shopping with Rezzadresa has great, great taste and jewelry, and so I was like, you know, Babe, do you mind going jewelry shopping with me? And just wants got a couple of things. We went in, I saw this necklaces. It was I try it on. I'm like, I'm not planning to spend this much money right now, but it was just beautiful. And my forty birthday is coming up and unlike a month and a half. So I'm like, you know, at this is a gift to myself. have to buy yourself. I got it, so I'm really excited. anyways, so we just finished jewelry shopping in by really house and but he's like, Babe, to have a minute. The SCRAB elimonade on. Like of course, we're Chit Chatting, catching up. We're talking. He's, you know, doing some work on their front yard again. So we're just talking and he goes, by the way, baby, I have to meet my friend here in a second. We're just going to grab lunch. And I was like, no problem, I'm going to bounce in a second. He goes, yeah, just say hi and then bounce. I'm like for sure. So his friend comes and I mean, oh my gosh, just the most gorgeous eyes I've ever seen. He's just just beautiful eyes, dreamy like, you know, just like those dreamy eyes where you just kind of want to stare at then and you just want to say and you can fuck me hard please, type of eyes. Okay, okay, so I bounced after a long five, twenty minutes. But like, do you think res I had purposely done that or I he just it just happened now, but because, you know what, I messaged him that morning because I had been asking him for two weeks whenever he gets a chance to go jewelry shopping, let me know. And I messaged him that morning. I'm like Hey, Babe, whenever you get a chance, let me know. He Goes Hey, by just cleared up this afternoon. Do you want to come? And I'm like fuck, yeah. So it was literally random. That's so freaking awesome. Yeah, yeah, I mean he could have easily told me, yeah, baby, you should leave right away because...

...of my Knob, but he was just like say hi to my friend. Yeah, because, you know whatever, we're getting close. We know each other's friends now. But so was I saw someone. They say eyes really say a lot. Yeah, yeah, and that was it from there. I messaged aside and I was like Hey, what's his what's his instagram? And res I was busy in the conversation with his friend and was looking at his phone, but sure enough, and like two point seven seconds, I found his instagram and I messaged him, yeah, we're you know. Here's where my also comes in. Yeah, and you know what's interesting about that is he asked me a question. He goes, are you always the Alpha? Okay, and I said that's my biggest issue in my relationships. I want to not be okay, okay, you know, but but I love that he identifies that about me and he already, you know, to work with the seas. He's not intimidated by that in me. He knows how to work with it. He allows me to be that. For that I get more vulnerable with him. Yeah, I teddy bear up with him. You know what I mean, because I mean I was like literally lying cuddling with him. He goes, I thought you said you don't cuddle and I was like, I'm not, I'm not, and I'm like I'm not, I'm not, amazing. Yeah, but it's really okay. So he's so far it's just been an awesome guy. But that's how that's what it was for me. That was different about him. He was just very receptive to who I am. Who wasn't just listening to try to yeah, to be an Asshole, to pretend like they care. He was actually listening. Yeah, so I can't wait for you to meet him. I think. I mean, if you don't like them, I'll drop them like a fucking you would do you would do that very hundred percent. Really. That's where my loyalty lies in a hearty. If you were to say to me I think he's a bad person, he would I would never talk to him again. I wouldn't even have to tell him why, I'll just never talk to me. An, that's crazy. I mean I my mom always said that,...

...between all that her daughters, that I have the best gut, intuition and and radar on people. Okay, it's not the Word Huh. So I feel like, from what I've heard, I'm gonna like him. Okay, I feel like that's yeah, and Um, just is just for everyone listening. My advice to gg of opening up and stuff. Yeah, is for GG. When you meet a guy, you shouldn't open up that quickly. Bullshit, but you shouldn't. This is where you, guys. You don't want to be an open book and you want to be mysterious and you want to give him a little bit of you know, like don't just okay, grow up everything, but I has not worked for you. I've done both and not of the work for you. None of the works. I don't never work for you and I have five thou guys. I can tell you right now that are ready to be with me in love with me, but that you were open. You want as open to them. I would always hope. I told you them to go get fucked by another woman when I'm busy. I'm saying at the beginning, to cry. I beginning. At the beginning. I'm saying, then you open up. was he had a slower pace? Yes, and up. Yes, yes, your hundred percent. You did for you, but I'm always open by I always tell every guy I don't fall in love. I don't. I'm not an emotional person. I'm not that. I always say that from the beginning, this polly stuff. I'm realizing now that I'm not ready for the strongholds commitment. But girl, if I were to give a recommendation to people when it comes to the beginning parts of dating, it's be extremely and unapologetically yourself, be your yes in the beginning and be so consumed and happy with yourself that their presence in front of you is only adding to their lives. And when you walk into any scenario business, meeting, relationship, anything like that, people have no choice but to kiss your ass because you are presenting that yes, and for me that's just who I am. You know. That's how I present myself. Some people get intimidated, some people get turned on. You know...

...what I mean? Yeah, so this one got turned on. Yeah, hopefully, you know I mean. Girl, I've seen it on. You want to? You want to see it on a don't. I'm okay, I'm go, I can. I reading me. I am. I don't know if it's ever going to get instagram official. I don't know because that's just a difficult world to have to explain to people if I am just and a polly relationship and not an exclusive and I'm posted up on instagram. Just be with him. Wait, just wait. Oh, yeah, and I'm sorry, Guy, about not see him any time. Yeah, it's going to be private. It's going to it's going to take a lot of conversations and probably a lot more sacks until we realize final reveal. Yeah, maybe I'll call you for those other days when he's not available. Oh my God. Thank you, guys, for listening to another episode of genuinely GG. If you loved us, subscribe to us. If you hate us, just write it in the reviews. If you want to dare me to do anything crazy, I swear I'm down for it. Just put the dare down and I will, I will, I'll do it. We'll make you do it, she'll make me do it all. I love you, guys. Thanks for listening to Geminely GIG. download new episodes every week and, if you haven't already subscribe to be sure to leave us a rating and review and, while you're at it, check out some of the other great shows available on Straw hut media.

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